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1.) Because she can't really love us back.

2.) Because when she is safe, loved, her heart and mind soon wander to others.

3.) Because she needs far more than she can give.

4.) Because love for he is about being desired by many others.

5.) Because she'll show more compassion to an acquaintance than she will her "lover"

6.) Because even if you love her, and she loves you, she'll remind you in a ...

Moved from BPD forum to the SOFF forum :) Replies can come from both places.-Cheze2
Thanks ahead of time for any replies!

I was married to a BPD woman for 12 years. I new she had issues, but didn't know it had a name. She had an affair, I was split black, the new guy split white and I was gone. I went to counseling and heard ...

Maybe this post was a little too long, so I've cut it down some. Please read and give advice, please.

I don't want to sound like I'm badmouthing my sister, I love her, but I guess it's fair to say I really hate her behaviour. I don't want to be mean to or about her. Perhaps 'My sister is a leech' sounded like I was being too ...

The last thing my ex said to me was "I don't hate you, but I don't respect you". This was after he announced his engagement and gave me a long speech about how I need to move on and maybe I'm not healthy enough to be in relationship, blah, blah. All of it was obnoxious, but there was something about those last words "I don't respect you" that hurt like nothing else can. I think ...

Since starting trauma therapy I've repeatedly told my T that I'm terrified for my children (I should probably also say that they are healthy and happy and everyone who has anything to do with them - preschool teachers, etc - say the same thing).

My mother was terribly inconsistent. I feel that I am terribly inconsistent. I don't slap my children across the face or tell them that I hate them. I try to make ...

***moved to significant others, family & friends***

This is not meant to offend anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am writing this only because I know what it is like to be on the Non side of things.

For 18-months, I dated an undiagnosed BPD. Some in my life think he was more sociopathic than borderline. I don't think so. But he exhibit every trait, to a T., and to a hurtful and destructive extreme. ...

Here's an article I've had in my files for a long time... can't give it source credit anymore than what is shown on the bottom line.
It was written by a woman with a diagnosed NPD mother. Her mother is dissimilar than is mine in many ways - she expresses her narcissism differently than does my mother - but the underlying pathology is similar.
From that viewpoint, this was helpful to me. I found this ...

Welcome to the borderline personality disorder forum. Whether you know for sure that someone in your life has BPD, or you simply suspect that they do, you have made an important first step. You have noticed that something isn’t right in your interactions with a specific person or people and you’ve started to ask questions. This is an important step in your recovery--whether you choose to leave or to stay in the relationship.

That said... ...

MOVED BY MODERATOR TO SIGNIFICANT OTHERS FORUM, WITH SHADOW THREAD IN HPDHas anyone out there raised by an HPD parent ever had that parent act sexually inappropriately towards them?

New thread just for Non HPD's.
Keep it as positive as you can, and I wish everyone all the Best!