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I've always found the clinical definition of BPD to be too convoluted to really describe the "essence" of what it's all about. So, BP's and non-BP's alike, in one or two sentences, how would you describe BPD?

For moi:
"A rejection of the self" and "Everything hurts"

GO!

Hi,

My boyfriend and I have been struggling a little lately and one my my challenges is seeing bpd as a bad thing in my life like I will never love a 'normal' life is there even is such a thing.

He suggested that I talk to someone who is older than me - maybe in their 30's or up to see how tier life has changed after getting a bit more experience and to ...

Maybe manic
I'm Bipolar as well as boderline. I don't think this is manic as when i'm bipolar high because this is a response to something that happened as opposed as with no rime and reason.
This morning I was having my breakfast when out of the blue I get a text from a guy from way back...on Facebook. We are connected but never talk. He has his life, I have mine. Separated.
He is ...

I've suspected for over a year now that I have BPD, ever since I read the symptoms and felt identified with... well, pretty much all of them. But I have gone to several psychologists and all of them have told me I was crazy to think so, and even sort of laughed about the idea of me thinking I have a personality disorder. So I don't really feel like going to another one again. But ...

Does anybody else go through this? It seems like I get terribly bored in relationships when they are going too well. Besides my usual mental problems, mood swings, etc, it just seems like when things start going too smoothly, I not only start questioning the relationship, but I start feeling terribly bored of it. Like I need chaos and drama. I know I do, but I still don't fully understand that aspect of me yet. ...

Just went to one of my groups, and saw my charts and it said I'm not diagnosed with BPD. This is the third pet diagnosis I was given then had removed from me by this psychiatrist. Not sure what the 4th she might try before she's replaced will be. Though good news is, I might be making headway into switching therapists and psychiatrists finally after months upon months of nagging and nagging. ...

I'm so angry and upset and hopeless and I need support. I fail at everything I try. I am so angry I feel like I'm on fire. I want to set my skin on fire because even that would feel better than this. I'm going to cut cut cut cut cut. It's the only way to numb my brain. And I'm scared to go outside. Not scared of other people. Scared of myself. I want ...

Okay, so I have one last question.

If I have the goal of simplification and high boundaries and all that, what about consistency with people and politeness?

Should this be a secondary goal?

Last question, promise.

Yes. Indeed. The toxic cycle which I have mentioned before will occur if we don't use high boundaries. I still haven't figured out how to do this from a glassed in office, but I need to.

We have to remain as objective as possible and we need to be strong enough to use those boundaries.

Symptoms are not "you" as it were. Symptoms possibly might be part genetic and part learned behavioral patterns learned in youth. Even if this stuff is part genetic, it is not the end all and be all of existence. Genetics are not everything because if you look at my siblings, you would see that for example, alcoholism is GONE GONE GONE. We are talking sobriety rates of 40, 25 and 20 years.

So, in terms ...