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My boyfriend moved in with me early in our relationship.
He has a son, age 5 that can't come over because we have no place for him to stay.
Our 6 months was on the 8th.
I was looking at larger houses today, just big enough to have his son have a room.
Boyfriend came home, said he'd offered our sofa to his friend if she gets out of her parents' place.
Friend is hot. ...

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Excuse Making
Instead of accepting responsibility for his actions, the sexual offender tries to justify his behavior. For example, "I was molested as a child" or "I was drunk when I did it" or "When she said no, I thought she meant yes."

Blaming
The sexual offender shifts responsibility for his actions from himself to others, a shift that allows him to blame the other person for "causing" his behavior. For example, "She was ...

As many of you know about three months ago my ex uBPD broke things off, jumped into another relationship (probably was already in it), kept many of my things worth of value, etc. Well last week I saw that she called three times at around 430-5am. I did not call her back but sent her an email the following day stating for her to not call me. Now a week later the police show up ...

i dont know whats right and whats real anymore so the song goes however its very accurate for me i dont know how im meant to feel anymore accurate again. hallucinating every day all day cant tell the difference anymore domt know why im posting this sorry. i know i am paranoid but it is out of control there is a man who comes here and he is trying to break into my home i ...

This question got locked in another thread before I could have it answered, and it's really bothering me...

The Nons in here all seem to be people who got hurt by people with BPD. Fine, cool, I accept that, but I don't get the logic.
If my heart got trampled by an Aspie or a Psychopath or a Bipolar I wouldn't go online and find a forum to hang out with more of that type ...

If you've seen my pervious posts, STBuBPDwAIF moved out at Christmas with help from her mother after a couple of months distortion campaign to friends (at least to those who believe her BS) or anyone who would listen
She was served today and I have to say it does feel pretty good (thanks DC). I thought I would be a ball of emotional blubber, and while I have had my moments today, all in all ...

One of the things that I noticed about by BPD ex straight away was her incredible 'child-like' personality...at times. Usually when she wanted something from me and often when she is sad, displaying empathy for others, feeling needy and generally feeling sorry for herself. I know that BPD arrests development to the age of a 3 year old and of course the flipside to this sweetness has been her child-like tantums. It always seemed like ...

Now that I'm fairly far removed from my case with my BPD'er I think sometimes I need to keep myself in check and write down what I need to work on. Sometimes when you write these things you do, you can really pick them out:

What I've done well lately:
I've really focused on myself, Getting back into work, actually putting in effort (I Own a Landscape company, It lost its magic over a few ...

WOOOO ZULU!!!!!

I've recently been dumped by a BPD woman. I've read a few articles trying to explain why it hurts so much more when dumped by a BPD, but I still don't understand. It's been a 3 months and it still hurts like it happened yesterday. I understand the whole co-dependency thing but I've never been that way. Is it because of how abruptly it ended? The relationship didn't even last that long, so I don't ...