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I am caught in a very complicated situation and don't know where else to turn. My family and I are convinced that my sister has BPD. Our family has been torn apart by her behavior and actions and we are desperate for help. Problem is we don't know how to approach her with our concerns and offer her help. We don't want conflict but feel it may be unavoidable. Any suggestions to get the ball ...

I am the non-BPD partner of a man with (I think) BPD. He is currently off work and has been for months, with what is being treated as depression (meds).

I have known him for many years, and seen the spectrum of his behaviour/challenges, and I actually feel 100% confident that he doesn't suffer simple depression, but actually BPD. I think the current episode of depression is as a result of his other troubles.
My ...

Hey all,

Do any of you ever find you have major issues with friendships?
I keep getting hurt and pushed aside from my current group but keep trying to fix it cause i think it might be the BPD's fault. I know they are using me and that i am easily forgetable to them... Hell they have done that often enough... But did i cause it? do i have any right to get upset when ...

To start, I think its important for me to say, I have not been diagnosed by a professional. I have been reading a lot, trying to find an explaination to myself and I'm almost convinced that BPD is whats "happening" and has been for many years. I feel like I'm incapable of functioning in any of my relationships, including my relationships with family and close friends. I feel completely lost and out of touch with ...

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I am a gay male, 23, and was in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18-months. He is an undiagnosed BDP. He lost his father at 2-years-old, has a very unstable mother, has been using cocaine off-and-on since he was 16 (he's now 20). He has lived in about 12 different homes in five different states in the last four years.

We were together for 13-months initially. Everything was perfect, with the exception of ...

I'm currently seeing an experienced psycho-analyst. I asked her if a borderline can love. Her answer wasn't convincing. The question bothers me. I wonder if a borderline's love is worthy of the name? I know it's a grim question.

Because if you're my partner, or want to be my partner, I'm going to hold you to the same standards I hold myself.
Because if you don't show empathy towards other people or try and fix the problems you create, I'm not going to show empathy towards you.
Because I hang myself out to dry constantly for your benefit and you can't manage to do the same for me.
Because even when I explain to ...

So... I'm tired... really tired, in fact.
I have school, work, a broken boyfriend with an angry streak, and while I found my Xanax... well it's not like it makes me happy. Just stops the crying, you know?

I was walkign across the street earlier today and prayed I got hit by a car so I could be in a coma until this was all over, but the more I think of it, the more ...

Need advice please, as feel in over my head (this is a little long winded)
Daughter has been self harming, abusive lying and manipulative since pre-teens
In that time she has never managed to hold any friendships for any period of time. People either stop seeing her or become so enraged, they threaten things if she was to contact them.
As she has gone through her teens the pattern has continued. However, her tools of ...

Something great finally happened to me and it was destroyed quickly. I met someone and we clicked instantly and VERY strongly. I kept thinking "how lucky am I to have met someone who is just like me!" and she would be amazed at how I liked all the same things she did as well. This wasn't really any serious mirroring on my part. I REALLY did like the things she liked. We would be around ...