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I've been told by my treatment team that one of the problems that I have with my BPD is my distrust of people, which is making it difficult for me to make "real" friends. Like...I have a lot of friends, but I don't care about them. I find it hard to love my family, or even my boyfriend.

How do you get to a point where you can care about people again? I understand the ...

So I am apparently a high-functioning, "quiet" person with BPD. Long history of intense relationships which all ended rather badly. I have been on my own for 8 months now and would like to have a male friend, not intense but yes, I wouldn't mind getting laid either.

So I went to a wedding party last night and had fun, lots of good conversation with various friends, but you know how weddings put single people ...

"why am i here? why me?" these questions i repeatedly ask myself over and over again, until my mind can answer them no more. "is it because god thinks i am strong and able to handle it?''"there are numerous times i thought it must be a mistake. this disorder doesnt describe me AT ALL. other people disagree.other people are different. sometimes, i hate them for it.

well, my name is yasmeen, i am half arabic, ...

This is a question that encompasses all area of personality disorders and mental health.

What is a healthy adult relationship? (By and large) This is a specific dilemma for me and a lot of people I've noticed being overrun by that hungry internal child's need for love, yet pushing people away with their sheer neediness. How can I keep boundaries between myself and others and still get the love I so desperately need?

A diagram ...

After the recent breakup of a very turbulent and intense online relationship I'm now questioning if I have BPD.
Or if maybe I was gaslighted by my former BF into thinking I have it and there's something about him that made me this way, I dunno. I need answers and understanding and I can't let go of it.

The story:

We met in April 2009 on an Autism website and I became instantly obsessed with ...

I just recently found my old personality, after gradually losing it to a therapist, I sought treatment and coping skills from about 3 years prior. I finally saw a new therapist who saw quite clearly how boundlessness and open I was and spotted immediately my personality disorder, of which my other therapist didn't see.

So my question is how do I maintain my personality and friendships with other people without losing who I am again? ...

I don't know what to do anymore. For the last month, the only two people around me were around nearly all the time. I've needed the constant company to try and forget about the fear and pain I feel when it comes to my on and off again relationship with my ex. He and I have been ridiculously complicated for 3 years, but he was always there behind me - working through his own pain ...

I don't know whether or not this is relevant to BPD. But I'd like to know if you have any similar experience of this kind of thing.

I didn't realise until recently but I almost NEVER listen to what a person is saying and I don't think I have in a long time. I'm always looking at what they really mean.. The emotional content of the communication. It's like seeing *through* people, you ironically don't ...

Hi,
I'm new here. Just got back from an appointment with the therapist, and after years of many different therapists and being told I have borderline traits but am actually depressed, she says I am both borderline and depressed! This was our first meeting after I had a major life crisis/suicide attempt. A bit of a kick in the teeth, so I came to see what kind of forums are out there and to learn ...

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