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I don't bloody the ###$ feel avoidant at all.
Sure I avoid talking to people, but that's just cuase I hate it.

Why should I care about others ######6 wimps.

I feel way more borderline, and one time I wanna kms the other I have sadistic urges.

I really found difficult to make friends, to stop doing the small talk and became closer to someone. If you had that kind of problem, how did you overcome it?

This is a question for partners, family, and friends of an APD or SPD person. I know that i sometimes try and use my disorder as an excuse for lazy or selfish behaviour. Other times, people in my life simply ask too much of me. So where do you draw the line? Do you make allowances for your loved one's limitations? But not so much that they take advantage?

I used to be an active person, years ago. Now I'm just always tired and wanting to sleep or lay down. Even just sitting/standing upright now has started to become a challenge of itself. Any ideas if this has any connection/correlation with APD? I just want to rule it out.

Thank you very much.

Does anyone else have anxiety about 'chatting' online?

I think it's because I can't see how the other person is reacting, so I worry that I'm being a nuisance. Which makes it difficult keeping in touch with people. Or maybe I'm worried they don't want to keep in touch at all.

It doesn't help that the two people I want to keep in touch with come with extra difficulties. The first person I clicked with ...

So, I have multiple things going on and I figured this was as good a place to post this as any. I'm not sure how much to include but, i'm sure it all relates to each other. I guess i'll just dive right in.

I have been unemployed for about a month and all of a sudden I am afraid to call back potential employers. I'm afraid to talk to people about a job, i'm ...

Hey All, My GF and I just started dating 3 months ago. She mentioned that she has AvPD but I didn't think much of it, except she's been withdrawing from me over the last month and this creates anxiety for me, which in turn leads to fights and that results in more withdrawal from her part...and so on this vicious cycle continues. Now before you guys advise me to move on from this relationship, I ...

Here's a weird problem: I have the great fortune of being in a serious relationship, but there are times I don't know what to say, particularly on the phone. (I have real issues with the phone in the first place, but I have learned to use the thing, at least a little, with my girlfriend.) For example, this afternoon, I waited to call because at first I knew I wouldn't be able to say anything. ...

I keep being told a million times to join a group. but how am i exactly suppose to do that? I have never belong anywhere no matter how hard I tried. I can't commit myself to any activity. Everything is just plain boring for me and I have no interest in anything whatsoever. Is there a tutorial for avoidants to start a new hobby? I'm so lost hopeless and depressed this week.

Can avoidance have sex?