Letting out my inner narc

I feel you on this. It makes sense to just not try as hard to fit in. The only hard part about that, is that i have the ability to fit in with essentially any group, it is just a force, and eventually falls apart.

I feel like the more i try fitting in with a diverse set of people, the more i learn and the smarter i get. Of course, these relationships are very short term, but in the end who else do i need?

I may be at a point in my life (21) where this makes sence, but, like you stated, if i ever want to find a close relationship i should probably start seeking out other narcs and ######6 the rest.

My best friends quote from back on the east coast, "I am convinced that 90% of the population is retarded" - This i agree with, and it is almost exactly the 95% that you refereed to.

Hey, if people wanna be fake,I can play that game. Oh, and by the way, ill be better than you at it, because i think about and manipulate the subconscious.

svenska500 wrote:I still don't see why family must be relevant in this topic at all.

Denialmometer goes crazy! Can you hear the sirens? Attention, all decks!

narcbolan wrote:But, in a way you actually have had an answer, what Anagram is sort of saying is that, whatever one thinks the cause is, it is the cause that you have to adress before you can move along with it.

You also need to hit some sort of rock bottom before that happens. Once it does it is neither about repression or embracing, it's about figuring out exactly what is impacting negatively on your life, making long forgotten connections with it, then finding a way to relate to it differently.

Unless you're not bothered about relationships, in which case, you don't need to change anything.

I've got nothing else to add.

anagram wrote:

svenska500 wrote:I still don't see why family must be relevant in this topic at all.

Denialmometer goes crazy! Can you hear the sirens? Attention, all decks!

narcbolan wrote:But, in a way you actually have had an answer, what Anagram is sort of saying is that, whatever one thinks the cause is, it is the cause that you have to adress before you can move along with it.

You also need to hit some sort of rock bottom before that happens. Once it does it is neither about repression or embracing, it's about figuring out exactly what is impacting negatively on your life, making long forgotten connections with it, then finding a way to relate to it differently.

Unless you're not bothered about relationships, in which case, you don't need to change anything.

I've got nothing else to add.

Thanks for your contribution. (Honestly, in reference to the first post. Sarcasm in reference to this one)

You need to fit in. Without others, you will feel empty inside. Just keeping being what you need to be as to bring them into your life and be with them for as long as they can take it. It sounds bad, but it's reality. We are emotional vampires and need a constant supply of others. Being completely alone, unnoticed.. will bring on depression. You don't need to try hard.. just keep repeating the same script over and over again to new people. Not a lot of emotional investment by doing this.

It's how I operate and I can interact with about 150 or so people a week out socially. Just more of the same.. my ex-narc was the same way.. same script.. over and over.. those who caught on, left.. but oh well.. who cares.. there are plenty of people that want to be around us, we don't need them. Have confidence and believe in yourself and people will be attracted to you. I'm sure you know this already.

You don't need to try hard to keep them in your life. Just remember, they are replaceable.

TiredOfRepression21 wrote:I feel you on this. It makes sense to just not try as hard to fit in. The only hard part about that, is that i have the ability to fit in with essentially any group, it is just a force, and eventually falls apart.

I feel like the more i try fitting in with a diverse set of people, the more i learn and the smarter i get. Of course, these relationships are very short term, but in the end who else do i need?

I may be at a point in my life (21) where this makes sence, but, like you stated, if i ever want to find a close relationship i should probably start seeking out other narcs and ######6 the rest.

My best friends quote from back on the east coast, "I am convinced that 90% of the population is retarded" - This i agree with, and it is almost exactly the 95% that you refereed to.

Hey, if people wanna be fake,I can play that game. Oh, and by the way, ill be better than you at it, because i think about and manipulate the subconscious.

-- Mon Jun 25, 2012 2:56 pm --

anagram wrote:Denialmometer goes crazy! Can you hear the sirens? Attention, all decks!

Okay then. Since you know me so well. Tell me why my parents or any of my family that live thousands of miles away and "I" choose to call once every few weeks to simply say hi.. is detrimental to my life at this current time? (I have made the rules with them and our interactions. They understand this and follow them.)

I know my past with them. That is the past. I am talking about right now.. after decades of dealing with it and accepting it and keeping them/having them in my life exactly where I want them and how I want them to be in my life.

Explain it to me. I would love to hear your theory on why they are a problem in my life at this current time. Thank you.

Im discrete about this though; some people who i consider not even my friend still think that we are very close

I can't handle having people catch on, it would ruin me. No one really has a bad opinion of me, but if they do, it is so extremely bad that they do not even tell anyone else. Because, first of all, no one would believe them

svenska500 wrote:Okay then. Since you know me so well. Tell me why my parents or any of my family that live thousands of miles away and "I" choose to call once every few weeks to simply say hi.. is detrimental to my life at this current time? (I have made the rules with them and our interactions. They understand this and follow them.)

I know my past with them. That is the past. I am talking about right now.. after decades of dealing with it and accepting it and keeping them/having them in my life exactly where I want them and how I want them to be in my life.

Explain it to me. I would love to hear your theory on why they are a problem in my life at this current time. Thank you.

Sven, dear, you're so easy

I don't know you, and won't claim to. I'm not talking about your parents today, silly. I get along with mine, remember?

anagram wrote:
I don't know you, and won't claim to. I'm not talking about your parents today, silly. I get along with mine, remember?

You indicated that parents are always the current problem for narcs. You are wrong.

svenska500 wrote:You indicated that parents are always the current problem for narcs. You are wrong.

Fair enough.





Except I didn't

anagram wrote:

svenska500 wrote:You indicated that parents are always the current problem for narcs. You are wrong.

Fair enough.





Except I didn't

Can you explain what this means in that case?

svenska500 wrote:I still don't see why family must be relevant in this topic at all.

anagram wrote:Denialmometer goes crazy! Can you hear the sirens? Attention, all decks!

Little Boy Lost wrote:how do you know? Recent studies found that narcissistic people have increased activity in a brain region associated with self-focus. granted, this may be because they choose to focus on themselves more than others, but it could be because they are wired that way. people with psychopathic and borderline personalities definitely are wired differently. there is evidence for numerous structural abnormalities in both cases. what you're saying is akin to saying that depressives are just sad and they're not wired differently, but they are.

I forgot to address your reply.

anagram wrote:

Mavet wrote:That leads me to ask a question. Some people say that a lot of the behavior of a pd is a defense mechanism of the brain. Is it? If it is, what made the brain choose this particular route? If not, is it just genetic?

I have every reason to believe I was born different. I was born schizophrenic, I just haven't happened to be afflicted by madness so far, and I hope I won't ever be. This is not a problem in itself. It turned into a PD because of the complete lack of tolerance of my parents.

Bottom line, for me, half yes, half no. I don't know where the "lack of empathy" part enters the story though. My guess is I was born this way.

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