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Postby daniel2011 » Wed Aug 31, 2011 11:34 pm

I am wondering if I may have a personality disorder, if I should seek help to better understand it.

Basically im obsessed with money, I mean seriously obsessed. I save like mad and dont waste a penny. My family this year gave me an extra £1 instead of a card. Ive always been this way and used to be very narcissistic a few years back. I believed I was special and better than everyone. and I used to buy expensive clothing to project this image. I still feel that im different but understand my limitations. I met a wealthy girlfriend who made me feel poor and shattered my narcissistic belief. Since then ive been obsessed with the memory, no once has been able to live up to her so I have stopped looking. I have kept all the items we shared. This was three years ago and since then ive been compelled to save and try different business ventures to increase my cashflow and net worth because I understand that its those two things that will satisfy my belief in my myself and this is now my long term vision of where I see my future!!

(im not changing the above view so please dont direct comments at that point) I now believe it is my life mission to become wealthy. I no longer have a girlfriend or any friends, my best friends got tired of me because I didn't want to spend any money or lose any economical loss by going to see them.

Im fine with this attitude and I don't see this as being the problem although I do recognise its unconventional. However where my problem lies is that I have one thing holding me back. I have read 100s of business and investment books all with conflicting views on investment. and I am torn between what is the best decision in my life. I get an idea every few weeks of something I should pursue and I get extremely passionate about it and obsessed with making it perfect. I create a daylie to do list to maximise my productivity and follow each task. I'm very productive with my time and I think i put it to good use. The problem is that I cant stay focused on one idea and this paralyses me and stops me achieving anything.

I feel like a jack of trades and master of non. Ive launched many different websites, written countless business plans, started books, drafted untold cvs, considered every possible career choice to maximise income while working on business plans. I trade, invest, look at property.

I once was interested in network marketing (that was a mistake, but another story) so I printed and collected detailed reports on over 300 companies. plastered them around my room and through process of illumination I picked the perfect one. I launched a business with great excitement, reached some criticism and rejection and then moved on to the next hurdle.

3 years later, im 25 years old. Ive managed to save a good amount of money. But im unclear in my career direction because I keep changing my mind and am unable to focus on any buisness or investment objectives because I keep getting excited, obsessed with it. and then eventually excited about something else.

As a result of this im very depressed, spend all my home time in isolation and drink a tad.

Is this normal? is this characteristics of a disorder? any advice? As I mentioned I dont want to change my vision and am willing to make sacrifices. But i see that im running around in a hamster wheel and not getting anywhere.

Sorry for the long post, I respect any views offered.
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Re: Is this a personality disorder? If so, any advice.... (

Postby petrossa » Fri Sep 02, 2011 7:57 am

You are contradicting yourself. On the one hand you say you want to be as you are and want to stay that way, otoh hand you worry if it's a disorder.

It the one or the other. Either you are who you are and do what you because you like it, or you don't and then it becomes a disorder.

A disorder in general can best be described as anything that influences your quality of life in a marked (negative) way.

Since you state you like it, it can't be a disorder.

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Postby HappyBusyFun » Fri Sep 02, 2011 8:24 am

Since you state you like it, it can't be a disorder.


That's ridiculous. That is obviously not the test for a disorder - "if you like it". Murdering psychopaths probably enjoy being murdering psychopaths.

Being obsessed with something maybe a symptom of a personality disorder - but it may not be. Most people in life will experience an obsession with something (even if just the mono-mania of first love) but it passes.

You may just have an Idée fixe about money. Frankly, of all the things you could be obsessed with, being driven to accumulate wealth is quite a healthy one and likely to be to your financial benefit in the long run (provided you don't do anything illegal or reckless).

It's a bad sign if you aren't going out and drinking excessively (don't do that - alcohol is expensive. save your money!!) but that may just be a bit of minor depression because you don't feel you've found your career niche and/or feel a bit uncertain about your future direction.

Maybe go and chat to a career counsellor or look for a business mentor? Most towns have chamber of commerce type organisations and support for young entrepreneurs. Besides, connections get you everywhere.

If you are that worried, go and speak to a psychiatrist or your doctor. No one here can offer a diagnosis !!!
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