OMG, what a wonderful article about narcissistic mothers! It was a lengthy read, but oh so accurate. To all of you on here who have narcissistic mothers, please tell me what you've done about it. I'm 61 y.o., my mother is 84, and I finally told her this week in a phone call all of the mean, selfish, miserable things she's done to me throughout my life and that I don't want to be treated that way any longer. I talked nonstop for 20 minutes, reminding her of the scores of hateful things she did and why I feel so unloved. When I was done, she said this -- "Well, I can see how much you hate me. There's nothing I can say. Goodbye."
She hung up. Once again she turned it around and didn't see the things I pointed out as her hating ME....she saw it as me proving to her that I hate HER.
Please tell me, where do I go from here? I really would appreciate your advice. We have had three very lengthy estrangements (1-1/2 years, six months, and three months), and each time it was me who initiated reconciliation. She has never, ever reached out to me.
My two sons (ages 31 and 38) haven't spoken to her in nearly seven years since their father died, because she did and said many mean and hateful things at the time of his death.
I'm feeling pretty crappy and could really use the advice of others who've lived this. Thanks. Terry