Why oh why? On topic thread. Npd relevant.

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I think that's beautifully put HSS.

I know I have replied quite a bit to this topic and in quite an emotional way but I have to add that if I never visited or joined psychforums, I would have never gotten to where I am today.

It's due to the members here calling me out on my stupidity that led me in the right direction in a place where I could express myself.

I would like to also add that I have seen improvement in many of the members here due to the encouragement from other members. I believe that the forum that was closed actually helped more than it hindered.

Most of the most enlightening topics have been the ones that are off topic.

There may be other reasons as to why it was closed but I do believe you took away a space of refuge from people who needed to express themselves. This from the recommendation from my psychologist, and partly because I believed jomp was my brother, was the reason for joining this forum in the first place.

So it is sad to see it taken down with the response being seemingly utter contempt towards the individuals on here. In order to discuss things, I now have to sit between 3 or more other forums and decide which one is correct and which one is not with fear that at any point a moderator will decide to shut it down.

Many people who have PDs have comorbidities. I agree that when things get silly, people need to stop so that things can come to a reasonable compromise however I do not feel that moderators are giving any sort of freedom to compromise. I personally feel that its rather sad.

But whatever it will be is what it will be.

I certainly would not like to be associated with SC. I do not believe that it is the helpful community as PF is. If anything it is the opposite. I do not feel that directing people there is the correct way to go about things and I do feel that treating people equally is the correct way to go about things.

At least explain as to why things are the way that they are and what we could do to fix it. So far, all I have gathered is to not avoid the swear filter and to keep things on topic and not discuss another members alleged bum relating to chinese food. That's all simple enough to adhere to and understand however we need to challenge each other in order to grow.

Neither AsPD nor NPD is going to respond in a healthy manner with a group hug. They need their actions questioned and analyzed so that they can see a different point of view.

That's my $100.

voidance wrote:Yes. PFs straggled pool of PDs is where to look for criminals. Not at all in pretty much your literal back yard. Not the South American gangs that are decapitating people in forests. Not Epstein and his child friendly island but the tiny minority on here.

Right, but how is that relevant to the people that run PF?
This situation is exactly the same as Reddit banning incels. Was the incel community more dangerous than other groups? No, hardly. I'd say mostly it's a group of people looking for support and community with people that have similar problems. But there was a chance it was a breeding ground for hate and therefore violence. It was considered negative because other people judged that it wasn't helping anyone's mental state and was instead justifying unhelpful and potentially dangerous negativity.

Anyway AsPD frequently ran campaigns against the mods. I was around when they upset some so horrible they broke down and never returned.

Btw, I'm just putting this in perspective. Was I happy AsPD was closed? Not at all. Was I surprised? Not at all.

There are times where people are quite obsessed with pathology - to the point that they were almost encouraging it when individuals were considering it to be a problem though that has decreased a lot over time
--- and there are people who have tried to make posts that were obviously going against being told not to make this the new AsPD forum (such as the post that was created asking why the old forum was shut down and if this should be the new forum, etc.), but those people weren't posting regularly. Trying to evade the swear filter is another very simple thing that gets choosen to be ignored though again not by what were regular participants.
It doesn't matter whether or not it's previous regular members who do it here (or the schizoid forum etc.), it's instantly lumped in with closed down forum behavior creating further antagonization

I get confused about the old place because it didn't seem any worst than when I originally came in.
As for someone mentioning people go elsewhere to target people, my line of thinking was that if it got shut down, there would be more people doing it --- but I guess the line of thinking was that if there was no other stimulation they wouldn't stick around in general.

saucygirl31 wrote:its just i have trouble understanding how self help and self expression have to be seperate.

Same for me

ASPD is never going to be opened again, Sociopathic community is a POS that would have no appeal for anyone with an IQ above mental retardation and an age over 16. Is anyone interested in a discord server I’ll do channels for ASPD and psychopathy discussions and try to keep things free and open but have some semblance of class. If anyone is interested let me know

For example, Esmoke here is too new to understand that mods usually don't like that type of post, but it may get lumped as aspd behavior

HSS wrote:My last thread was locked in the middle of a discussion... Maybe it wasn't useful, but I was trying...

Yeah, I noticed that one.

I was too lazy to do more than skim that thread from where I last commented, so I don't know if I'm missing something, but I saw the suggestion of agreeing they may be treatment resistant and then the first sentence of your last reply instantly going over to "masks" and keeping up acts, etc.
It came off as having the motive to pathologize / examine pathology rather than to be "useful"
Perhaps mods were concerned, in that instance, that you were going to start testing someone's patience.

*** I'm not speaking for them or claiming you would have done so because I don't have a clue what their opinion of your comments or the questions you asked them was
- it's just an outsider's perspective: it was something that made me scratch my head.

Nor am I being particularly blaming of you, because on a whole, my behavior has been much worse than yours in every way (albeit also often unintentionally).

I'm not looking to start a dialogue on this either unless you feel necessary to PM me because I don't want to fully stray from this topic, but since you enjoy giving so much feedback and recieve little, it's just something for you to reflect upon when it comes to motives

The struggles are real man. Nobody here understands a nukka except for voidance

ugh oh god esmoke.

i could teach u so much.

saucygirl31 wrote:ugh oh god esmoke.

i could teach u so much.

Wanna hug and drink poison together?

Greebo wrote:Although having had brief look at the SPD forum, the locking of threads does seem strangely arbitrary.

hmmmn

lifts head away from telescope and scans the scene

consumers be consuming more
police be policing more
criers be cry more
mods be mod more

maybe its a reaction to anxiety and the unknown.
People try to control what they can control as a compensating reaction to experiencing uncertainty around things they have no control over

My guess is that super spring cleaning the forum; from the spread of the unpredicatble elements, and isocontaining a subforum into order.. is da mods way of reacting to what else is happening to them.

if a pattern can't be seen in this forum, it's probably one that is outside it raying into it.

a fwend of mine likes to tell me in a rather condesending way - when I talk about astrology
"correlation is not causation"

but personallly I like to balance out every statement like that with an equally opposite like fingers and thumb, left and right hand so also. Afterall our power comes in the ability to grasp with opposites

"everything is connected"


but that being said. Let me oppose the opposite with another:
My personal attraction to the aesthetics of Al-Kindi's rays means I have rose tinted glasses fused as telescopes for eyes, so obviously, one needs to take pretty statements like the above with a healthy dose of skeptisim also. But take the skeptisim with suspended openness to beauty also <3