What are you looking for in your relationships?

poxalis wrote:yeah, i'd say jomp and me aren't far off in our desires. i'd add someone who doesn't need romance and emotional support.

Yeah, that's important. Although, it's rare and you're more likely to find one that needs it but recognises that it's not going to happen in the same way as they're expecting.

justonemoreperson wrote:

poxalis wrote:yeah, i'd say jomp and me aren't far off in our desires. i'd add someone who doesn't need romance and emotional support.

Yeah, that's important. Although, it's rare and you're more likely to find one that needs it but recognises that it's not going to happen in the same way as they're expecting.

in my experience that didn't work out. i think the problem though, was that they ended up needing emotional support somewhat desperately (they hadn't when we started seeing each other). i don't think they realized they needed support but they also were attached to me at that point and unwilling to let go. i tried to get them to move on and see other people but that never worked out until i went no contact and moved away.

i also attempted making a ###$ buddy situation (very clearly said i was not interested in a romantic relationship) but i suppose i was too young for anyone to accept that and in the end i was pressured into entering a false relationship to appease outside parties. however the "boyfriend" seemed to think we had become an actual couple and it ended up a mess as well.

both those people liked to attack my character since i wasn't able to give them what they wanted. likening me to a psychopath.

i have found someone with no emotional requirements now though and it's proving pretty successful.

Locked as off topic for the NPD forum .