Attention Seeking Behaviour

justonemoreperson wrote:Attention is what's seen, but it's not what causes it.

Healthy attention is paid as a reward for something done which has value. People are currently giving Elon Musk attention because he successfully made a rocket to launch people into orbit.

Seeking attention for its own sake is psychological masturbation.

If you want to flip this around, then you have to ignore the need for attention and try to do something of worth that will give you attention as a by-product. This level of attention will be more sustainable because it will give you a reason why you're getting it.

You can blame and point at others as the cause, but it makes no difference where it comes from. You need to make the change.

Carrying on the masturbation analogy: if you want a relationship because it means you can have sex
then wanking into a sock isn't going to satisfy your general loneliness, because you've boiled down the whole process to getting your rocks off.

Seeking attention is the same as wanking into a sock. It boils the whole measurement process into a single act; that of being recognised, while ignoring the real reason people get recognised: for doing someone worthy of recognition.

Start reading to people in an old-folks home, join your local search and rescue organisation, offer to coach kids' football, write a book, grow giant sunflowers. Anything that gives some solid ground for recognition.

Manners73 wrote:
You're not telling me that growing a sunflower is better than masturbating into a sock.

HSS wrote:I don't like whinings me too. I get irritated.

justonemoreperson wrote:Hearing people whine about stuff they don't seek to fix makes me want to do them damage.