by DaturaInnoxia » Thu May 14, 2020 2:00 pm
Not ideal, bro, not ideal. Life on life's terms.
With my experience I felt at odds with the individual from the get go.
Originally, I dealt with him when he facilitated a couple of group therapy sessions and he'd use way too many personal examples involving his childhood and the many ways women have hurt him (an extremely inappropiate level of self-disclosure in a therapeutic setting for many reasons).
The part I played in the experience was agreeing to work with him.
Even when I was I waiting for a referral for one on one, all I hoped for was "not him"
That level of discomfort is not how you should start off with a therapist.
I remember him complaining about "those types of girls with their tits hanging out of their shirts" and then looked at me, eyes widened as if shocked by what he just said, and then exclaimed, "Uh oh. I shouldn't have said that." I have to admit that I was entertained by that level of (still relatively innocent) faux pas.
When he started directing his criticisms of women at me it became a problem and soon after that, he ended up in a situation that led to him giving me a referral to someone else.
I was actually really proud of myself because I was able to recognize that he was triggered and that it wasn't personal which is extremely rare in regards to me experiencing personal issues with others.
On a tangent (of course),
Sometimes I get weird invasive images or feelings that come up for people, and with him, I saw him naked wearing nothing but a diaper with a thing on his head and a rattle too like in the fetish porn, lolz.
I found it strangely entertaining and fascinating to try to psychoanalyze him - and myself given that babies freak me right out (after I stopped working with him, of course).