Learning empathy from the heartbreak cont.

I didn't think it was possible for your posts to sound any more inane, but you've outdone yourself. I'm going to follow the good sense of others here wiser than I, and put you on ignore.

flightrisk wrote:I didn't think it was possible for your posts to sound any more inane, but you've outdone yourself. I'm going to follow the good sense of others here wiser than I, and put you on ignore.

Becouse your an idiot that doesnt understand sarcasm. And I wont be missing you.

Aside from the flames on both side, Prophet is making a good point: there is a conflict of interest here. Nobody is benefiting from this, least of all narcissists themselves.

The pattern itself is of psychological relevance, as the "flying monkey" is the child who was rewarded for bullying/harassing or gaslighting when the family image was at stake. So their narcissism is tied to receiving validation from doing other's bids. Emphatically, I cannot imagine this to be a very comfortable situation, this thirst that cannot be extinguished, seeking a light that is always being shone on someone else.

Still, doubly problematic here, because of the conflict of interest.
This problem has already been reported, I can only speculate about why no measures have been taken.

Cassandre wrote:The pattern itself is of psychological relevance, as the "flying monkey" is the child who was rewarded for bullying/harassing or gaslighting when the family image was at stake. So their narcissism is tied to receiving validation from doing other's bids. Emphatically, I cannot imagine this to be a very comfortable situation, this thirst that cannot be extinguished, seeking a light that is always being shone on someone else.

Well said I was this way as invert. You have to redirect praise to the abuser, cant say no to anything, be a flying monkey. In my oppinion you are essentialy correct. You dont seek the light. You seek to abuse yourself. You crave the abusive relationship. You seek the narcissist and praise him/her for abusing you.

Cassandre wrote:Still, doubly problematic here, because of the conflict of interest.
This problem has already been reported, I can only speculate about why no measures have been taken.
Aside from the flames on both side, Prophet is making a good point: there is a conflict of interest here. Nobody is benefiting from this, least of all narcissists themselves.

What problem? What conflict of interest. Its a forum, were having a discussion. Both sides get to show their arguments and everyone forms his own oppinion.

But the invert is not the only type of likely flying monkey. "Normal people" are not self accepting, so they have to constantly demean other people to find their sense of self-worth. The ones talking about other people. Some try to improve their status by catering to the narcissist, the spotlight, seeking his/her approval.