Do you hate people?

Like the title says do you hate other people, does it really bother you when you have to be around people? If so is it everyone or just certain people?

No, I can't say I really feel that way. The emotional investment required to hate is usually more than I'm willing to make. There are people I find hard to tolerate and I'll avoid engaging with them. I have a difficult time hiding my contempt when I find someone insufferable, so it's likely they would try to avoid me as well.

I enjoy many of my work colleagues and also my longstanding group of friends. I'd be bored without people to talk to and do things with. That said, I'm also comfortable spending time with myself and there are times I prefer my own company and choose not to be sociable.

What bothers you about being around people?

I like the people I know, it’s the general public, everything they do aggravates me, I try to ignore it because I know it makes me incredibly irritable most of the time, I do a good job of hiding it I think, but I can’t help it, if I could shut it off I would do it. I’ve actually growled at people for standing too close to me in line or rushing me. Like just slipped out, didn’t even mean too. Plus a few other gems I’ll leave to the imagination. I tend to stay at home most of the time because of this, it’s impossible to have a good time when this is going on inside your head.

Is it a perception of other people’s behaviour as hostile/threatening? Or do you resent their behaviour because they’re impinging on you or because they’re doing things you want to do but feel unable?

SoloZombie wrote:Like the title says do you hate other people, does it really bother you when you have to be around people? If so is it everyone or just certain people?

Well I say it quite often and think it quite often but I'm not exactly sure on what exactly I am aiming it. I mean all lifeforms are stupid, greedy; life itself is a mess of useless, senseless realisation of needs and wants and ways to get there of which 99 percent are pure imagination and the rest is survival which also doesnt really make any sense at all.
Group dynamics can also quite repulsive. When people, mostly driven by thoughless automatism, suddenly run after a herd be that in action or in ideas, not because the have reflected on the given topic in any meaningful depth, but because they feel something has to "change" or they have to act; its a bit like in many internet forums where people think just because they can utter their opinion that somehow automatically makes their opinions valid or relevant, while most of them cant even distinguish those from facts.

Greebo wrote:Is it a perception of other people’s behaviour as hostile/threatening? Or do you resent their behaviour because they’re impinging on you or because they’re doing things you want to do but feel unable?

Some of it is I feel like I’m being challenged constantly so hostile I suppose, a lot of it is just what I see as useless, mindless behavior that is spilling over onto me, for instance rushing me is a big one with impatient people, it’s not my problem their life is such a disaster they have to run around like that, I refuse and I resent it when people try to make their problems my problems. I leave them alone and want the same in return.

SoloZombie wrote:

Greebo wrote:Is it a perception of other people’s behaviour as hostile/threatening? Or do you resent their behaviour because they’re impinging on you or because they’re doing things you want to do but feel unable?

Some of it is I feel like I’m being challenged constantly so hostile I suppose, a lot of it is just what I see as useless, mindless behavior that is spilling over onto me, for instance rushing me is a big one with impatient people, it’s not my problem their life is such a disaster they have to run around like that, I refuse and I resent it when people try to make their problems my problems. I leave them alone and want the same in return.

I'm very similar. I wouldn't say I hate people, I don't. I hate how most of them behave, mindless babble about nothing, totally self concerned, rude, deceptive, etc. They get pissed over the simplest things: The wrong coffee, a steak that isn't cooked how they wanted, a drink that isn't mixed to their liking etc. We're headed towards a disaster as a society in my view. The instant gratification/entitlement BS will eventually end, and it will destroy most people with it.

They want to argue about the dumbest social issues and BS that clearly doesn't matter but everything is important, broadcasted, monitored, etc.

If I could throw my phone out the window (aside from music) I would have done it already.

Technology is a blessing and a curse. People will spend most of their lives staring at a screen.

I just want to be left alone. People just post selfies and me me me all day I can't handle it. In the back of my mind I know that no one cares, and I honestly barely talk anymore. I wouldn't say it's depression, but I just don't want to be here LOL rather be alone in the woods I guess.

SoloZombie wrote:I like the people I know, it’s the general public, everything they do aggravates me, I try to ignore it because I know it makes me incredibly irritable most of the time, I do a good job of hiding it I think, but I can’t help it, if I could shut it off I would do it. I’ve actually growled at people for standing too close to me in line or rushing me. Like just slipped out, didn’t even mean too. Plus a few other gems I’ll leave to the imagination.

In my mind, there's a bit of a difference between someone standing too close to you in line and someone rushing you. The former is a passive act that the "culprit" is likely unaware of; the latter is deliberate and conscious. Is your reaction the same in these situations?

Do you ever experience a pleasant, impromptu exchange with a stranger? Like maybe standing in line? Or are the negative thoughts pretty much always there?

SoloZombie wrote:I tend to stay at home most of the time because of this, it’s impossible to have a good time when this is going on inside your head.

What about going out with friends? Or having them over to your place? Is this a more pleasant experience?

I’m fine with friends and family, and I do have pleasant exchanges with random people. The thoughts are pretty persistent but sometimes I’m in a good mood and I don’t notice it. My new T seems to think it’s because my father was so unpredictable and volatile to the point you never knew what you were going to get out of him, even seemingly nice genstures could be turned against me to prove a point, that basically my brain is malfunctioning and detecting threats that aren’t really there. No mention on if there is something that can be done about however.

I find that my ability to deal with the general public, or anyone else for that matter, is greatly impacted by my mood. I have problems sleeping so that plays a part. Also I’ve noticed times when I’ve taken a complete hiatus from wine I am friendlier and more patient with others. It’s top of mind because I didn’t sleep well last night and I don’t really feel like talking to my colleagues today.

Ymmv