Hunter or prey?

Quoth wrote:Manning is the process through which a falconer or austringer acclimatises a raptor. It’s an extremely subtle and orchestrated form of persuasion.

Ah, thank you. I learned a new word today.

Now it makes sense.

So...not chasing. Acquisition and grooming?

Kimera wrote:

ZombieZ wrote:I have always chased but I won’t lie I like an aggressive female too. I’ve had a few over the years.

That chick in the video looked pretty aggressive. Just teasing, Z.

She purred like a kitten

I think I’ve made Kimeras Narcissistic devaluation trash bin because of my questionable choices in mating behavior. I have to be honest It was only a matter of time before it happened lol.

1PolarBear wrote:Better way to approach might be to grow and walk together, or at least that is how I see it possibly working long term if one wants that.

I''ve been better at this recently. But I still feel compelled to poke around their limits first and if they are weak then I don't want them long term

To be chased of course
But practically i think i have intimacy problems because i feel some kind of push and pull.i don't know how to explain like you are too close and i get upset and you are not close enough and i get upset again.
But still i think i prefer to be chased

Would you lead someone you wanted who didn't initiate?

-- Sat May 12, 2018 2:30 pm --

Maybe I'm using euphemisms and excuses for wanting to play games and not a lot else. I'm attracted to the long term though

What do you mean lead??
Maybe he could see it or probably i could show it but i tend to self sabotage somehow generally with the hot and cold behavior

ZombieZ wrote:I think I’ve made Kimeras Narcissistic devaluation trash bin because of my questionable choices in mating behavior.

Look on the bright side. You'll have lots of company in there.

Contrast wrote:Maybe I'm using euphemisms and excuses for wanting to play games and not a lot else. I'm attracted to the long term though

For me it's less about wanting and more about ability. Recent revelation. If I could connect with someone in a more meaningful way, without the games, I'd prefer it.

Contrast wrote:Would you lead someone you wanted who didn't initiate?

Not sure who you were posing the question to....but, no. Whether fair or not, I associate the tenacity of the chase with other personality traits I admire. If a guy has the motivation and persistence to chase me, I assume he's also that way in dealing with other aspects of his life. I admire ambitious guys who find ways to get what they want. I draw the line at stalking, though. Ambitious and batshit crazy are not the same thing.

Kimera wrote:

Contrast wrote:Maybe I'm using euphemisms and excuses for wanting to play games and not a lot else. I'm attracted to the long term though

For me it's less about wanting and more about ability. Recent revelation. If I could connect with someone in a more meaningful way, without the games, I'd prefer it.

Contrast wrote:Would you lead someone you wanted who didn't initiate?

Not sure who you were posing the question to....but, no. Whether fair or not, I associate the tenacity of the chase with other personality traits I admire. If a guy has the motivation and persistence to chase me, I assume he's also that way in dealing with other aspects of his life. I admire ambitious guys who find ways to get what they want. I draw the line at stalking, though. Ambitious and batshit crazy are not the same thing.

I agree with above.about the second is not about admiration for me. It is just easier to be with someone like this

Not unfair. Just telling of the psychology behind it.

I like to chase and so for guys who think it's a burden I don't really see the problem. Take what you want already

-- Sat May 12, 2018 2:54 pm --



Was on the columbian marching train to pick up and this was on in someone's car. Completely irrelevant but I'm obviously still not housetrained. Was thinking about this thread at the time