Do you tell Nons you have NPD?/Diagnosis Questions

i'm exactly like that too... I easily recognize people's feelings, I'm just not compassionate about it?

Unless I'm projecting, I don't have a clue what people want around me or from me. It's led to a lot of trouble at work, with friends, and with male colleagues/neighbours, etc, (not what you might think - I'm usually really nice and men take that wrong or something and I get stalked). Having kids has really helped try to figure out someone's needs. Nothing like a screaming baby! Good luck and, yes, having cognitive empathy is a borderline's dream.

Well, I officially have a NPD diagnosis. Guess I'm part of the elite little club now lol. As far as I can tell the only potentially negative thing about this diagnosis is no psychiatrist will ever wanna date me ha ha

Ha! No therapist wants to treat BPD's!

Lol what I don't understand why you said that

Every time I've been in therapy like every time with a male therapist they want to date me and with a female therapist they can't stand me. I've been passed around therapists for at least ten years without anyone actually helping me. It just actually happened again. My female therapist said she was uncomfortable and passed me back to the gp and psychiatrist. Sigh!

The only thing i've told nons is that i have Bipolar disorder, because i was explaining why i was acting a certain way. I would never tell them i'm antisocial or have substance abuse issues..

Mumatthebeach wrote:Every time I've been in therapy like every time with a male therapist they want to date me and with a female therapist they can't stand me. I've been passed around therapists for at least ten years without anyone actually helping me. It just actually happened again. My female therapist said she was uncomfortable and passed me back to the gp and psychiatrist. Sigh!

lol! Sorry to hear that. Now that you mention it I've only ever had female therapists, and I always stop going cause I can tell they just hate me so much. I would like a male one instead!

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Knoxious wrote:The only thing i've told nons is that i have Bipolar disorder, because i was explaining why i was acting a certain way. I would never tell them i'm antisocial or have substance abuse issues..

That makes sense. I think nons would dislike antisocial people even more than the narcissists lol. I've told three people about my diagnosis, but I was very careful about who to tell, I only told people who I knew would find it interesting or at least be understanding, and I made it sound a lot less "bad" than it really is. (For example I lied about how I seriously have pretty much no empathy, and said I don't think incredibly high of myself/it's more general self absorption. There are so many different types of narcs that I knew I could get away with it).

Well, at least we have some things in common with each other!

Indeed! I still don’t get why we can’t be honest with our therapists. But there you are, another complicated relationship. It’s like therapists only want to deal with healthy people and sit around having coffee. I bought my therapist cake when she dumped me. Might as well have a civil break-up! Or I was trying to make her feel bad for dumping me. I’m actually not sure.

Mumatthebeach wrote:Indeed! I still don’t get why we can’t be honest with our therapists. But there you are, another complicated relationship. It’s like therapists only want to deal with healthy people and sit around having coffee. I bought my therapist cake when she dumped me. Might as well have a civil break-up! Or I was trying to make her feel bad for dumping me. I’m actually not sure.

I dont know or understand this problem at all. I'm going to therapy to feel better at some point, its essential to be honest.