Narcissists, do you like drama or dislike drama?

Jody wrote:Hello jean33,

" I would say that drama can be taken as criticism for covert pwNPD, that's why I guess he is ignoring you, he took it as an attack on his personnality or couldn't deal with the pain of what he is doing to you and that's actually him causing it."

Jean, i have read that pwnpd have no guilt, or if they do, it is fleeting, just for a few seconds then it is gone. Do you think he actually couldn't deal with the pain he was causing me? Do you have npd? I am eager to read your reply. He ended up talking to me after ignoring me about 5x. He was rude to me. It hurt me but i guess i deserve it for (unknowingly) hurting him from the drama.

No, I wasn't diagnosed with NPD. I saw 3 psychologists and 1 psychiatrist. The psychiatrist and one of the psychologists didn't tell me the diagnosis, cause they didn't work with diagnosises (what I find pretty weird especially for a psychiatrist). One psychologist told me that I make her thinking of BPD but didn't diagnose me with that and the last one who is a psychanalyst where I still go told me that I have an attachement disorder, a very fragile "self" and selfhate.
For myself I am certain that I have covert NPD, I show all the symptoms, rage, selfhate, jealousy, can't take any criticism, shame, revengeful and son, that's the only disorder where I can identify myself with when I read about it.
In addition covert NPD is pretty unknown and I think it is not even a recognized disorder. I told the psychologists and psychiatrists about me that I think having covert NPD. but none of them ever heard about covert NPD, they only knew the overt type so they dismissed the possibilty of NPD. So the chance to be diagnosed with the covert type is very very small.

Is your ex diagnosed with covert NPD? If he really is a covert he is giving you the silent treatement, he must taken something you said as criticism. What do you mean with guilt? If he feels guilty that he ignores you and hurt you by that?
In my opinion if a covert with NPD is aware that he has NPD, then I think yes it is possible that he is aware of what he is doing is causing pain, but can't help with it. I don't know if that's the case with your ex.

May wanna tell us what what you did which makes him ignoring you?

BTW I would advise you ... May be something from it you would like and imply.
NPD or AsPD or in general ANYBODY Will never leave you UNTILL FIND SOMEBODY EQUAL OR BETTER than YOU!
Only crazy one will switch with pleasure Ferrari to Nissan
So look at the mirror and think clear what you see and what you can change to become BEST of yourself.
And write what you should do for it. Loose little bit weight? may be change clothing style? Than which one you like? start implying . May be hair length , color?
Write it How to get it and work on it little by little.
Next think. Are you interesting person? Can you speak easy on a date? Get some classic books or history. and read before sleep time. Ask some questions on a date if you dont know what to say. millions questions. etc...
SEX- Try something new he will remember! Get some toys if he NPD ASPD he will love it.
Show you love it much more than him BUT ONLY because of HIS magnificent sexuality you so weak to resist. And it leads you to bloom with him as never before

And yes: your hygiene should be excellent. Breath smell, parfume, nit clothes , nail polish, make up, clean hair. Polite and sweet.

there are more to say and discuss of course.
But if you will become DIFFICULT to replace. NOW YOU WILL STOP worrying will he leave you or not.
You will have more choices of men. And He will understand that it is 1% chance for him to find somebody even equal It will be in his worst imaginary cases to loos you