Discussing Moderation For NPD forum.

Ladywith3cats wrote:

Après L Orage wrote:On a side note, I feel like Stillface would make a perfect mod, she is kind, caring, mature, realistic, she has benefited from therapy and inner child work. She also seems like an avid reader and has been exposed to theory. She also is spending time on the forum for a good reason: she is willing to give back.

Perfect mod.

This. She's the entire package. She hasn't been around in about a week though. I think I'll email her tonight (not about being a mod, we have been chatting on the side about therapy and stuff). I hope she's okay.

Let us know. Thanks for putting some thought to it, everyone.

TTL hasn't been around for a few days which is unusual...... hope he is ok

easyfromhere wrote:TTL hasn't been around for a few days which is unusual...... hope he is ok

I'm afraid he might have suffered a narcissistic injury from what was said about him here. Ah well, I hope he's okay too. I'm sure he'll be back soon. I miss his walls o'words.
I can empathize, because he was ALWAYS on here. So he must be really hurt. Unless it's something completely unrelated, which is possible.
In all seriousness I feel like in some ways, he set the tone of this forum and he seems the most welcoming to newcomers. Does anyone have his email?

He's usually fairly thick skinned. I must have missed what it was!

Ladywith3cats wrote:This. She's the entire package. She hasn't been around in about a week though. I think I'll email her tonight (not about being a mod, we have been chatting on the side about therapy and stuff). I hope she's okay.

Nice!

Otter wrote:Let us know. Thanks for putting some thought to it, everyone.

You're welcome, Otter!

I think it'd be nice for once if we could manage to work toward a common goal.

I also think that it would be nice to keep this thread focused on its dedicated purpose, as opposed to digress on a particular individual. But this is not my fight anymore and I am off for the night IRL.

Good luck guys and gals!

I'm gonna do a quacky number here.

This is the NPD forum and it should be the pwNPD who determine who they wish to have as their forum moderator. Recovered or not.

The nons need to stay out of it. And that's coming from a non here myself.

Since we have this thread, and the subject matter is about moderation - I have some questions...

There seems to be some concern about whether or not a moderator is a non or not. What you think a moderator should do, who is assigned to this forum?

Also, how do we know if someone is a non or not? Do we take them at their word? Do they have to be diagnosed? How do we know they are diagnosed?

Otter, that's a great question. I don't think anyone here has actually been diagnosed. But, I do think that people who simply identify with a particular disorder have been made mods before. Like Esquire, he didn't have a dx but he knew a lot about NPD and was super helpful.

I think Akuma might be a good choice.

-- Sat Nov 14, 2015 5:29 am --

Lolidk has a dx too. She hangs out a lot on the aspd forums but I think she would take the job seriously here.

Otter wrote:Since we have this thread, and the subject matter is about moderation - I have some questions...

There seems to be some concern about whether or not a moderator is a non or not. What you think a moderator should do, who is assigned to this forum?

Also, how do we know if someone is a non or not? Do we take them at their word? Do they have to be diagnosed? How do we know they are diagnosed?

Hi, Otter. I definitely think the new mod should be N, but since so few here have an actual diagnosis, we might have to take them at their word that they're N. If they say they have a dx, we have to take them at their word since we can't exactly ask them for psychiatric papers to prove it.

That being said, Stillface (who has already been mentioned) does have an actual dx, besides being the perfect candidate for the job. If you'd like, I will email her and mention several people have mentioned her as a great potential mod. She isn't here much so she might refuse but I think it's worth a try, don't you?

I don't know lolidk, but she doesn't post here much at all, and personally I don't think a person who spends most of their time in the AsPD forum or has AsPD or AsPD traits would be such a great idea. I think sensitivity might be lacking (even if they might have more "common sense"). Again, I don't know this person or know how others feel about that. Maybe she's not AsPD and just likes that forum.

I think whoever is chosen should be chosen by the Ns, not the nons. I think the person should:
1. be in therapy or have been in therapy (it makes no difference if they're "healed" or not--most likely they would not be but at least they're working toward it)
2. ideally, have a diagnosis (that may not be possible though since so few here do)
3. have some degree of empathy (it's entirely possible for an N to have that or at least a modicum of it)
4. sensitivity to other Ns and an understanding of our problems.
5. sensitivity to nons also.
6. like helping and welcoming new people to the forum
7. be tough minded enough to issue discipline or warnings when necessary
8. be mature and stay out of high school drama (not that we have much here!)

Once again, i think Stillface fits all these criteria. I'll email her.
Otters are my second favorite animal, btw.

One other thing I'd like to mention--I think this forum should have the big pink label the AsPD and HpD forums do. I wonder why this one and the BPD forum do not.

One point I forgot to add. The new mod should have knowledge about NPD. This doesn't mean they have to be a walking encyclopedia, but they should at least know the basics and have some understanding of it.