Discussing Moderation For NPD forum.

HR_p:

If you could communicate exclusively in corporate lingo you would get my nod for the job.

For example: this discussion is off-topic

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realityhere wrote:I'd hate for a mod transferring a non's question about NPD to be shuttled here n' there, when the poster may very well have a valid concern about his own or a relative's suspected disorder being NPD.

I saw that happen a couple times. I felt empathy for the OP, that they might wonder why some nons can post here but not others. I wanted to post to their moved thread and say that, but I thought it would be stirring the pot.

That's actually another example of how I feel my TS (left side) recoil a little. It did the last time I saw one of those moved threads, and I thought about stating a concern. It felt like I might be stirring something up more than I should. Like, there could be consequences or feelings (one of the Screws gets testy with me) my bold/grandiose self won't have to deal with.

I don't mind if there's a mod. I don't think it has a chilling effect. I think the last moved post (which I backed down from replying to) happened since we had no mod. I would have probably said something if it was a home-grown mod. I think I feared the cross-disorder boundary (get some weirdo on my case).

I just don't understand the craving people have for authority. It's not like things are bad not having one. I'd rather HQ take their time instead of rushing them for no reason.

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realityhere wrote:I'm a non, and to be honest, I like the way the NPD forum has been so far, with no mod. Sure, some ppl are gonna come on this forum not knowing much abut NPD and demonize the disordered person, but the NPD forum's questions-and-replies format has provided a wealth of info that other sites do not provide. Many NPD posters are gentle enough to remind such ppl that pwPDs are afflicted with an inability to understand what they do in the moment and grapple with issues within their selves that are far harder to admit and control.

The more I read here, the more I agree with this. I like the way things have been with no mod, and the Ns here have been very respectful of the nons and provide information not readily available on victim sites or anywhere else for that matter, because of the stories of personal experience that are shared.

I'd hate for a mod transferring a non's question about NPD to be shuttled here n' there, when the poster may very well have a valid concern about his own or a relative's suspected disorder being NPD. The self-aware posters on NPD know well enough the symptomatic parts of this disorder to opine yes or no, he/she may have this disorder and advise accordingly to go with therapy, meditation, or whatever. I've never read anything contrary-- posters have been forward, informative, and honest enough so far.

I agree with this too.

Oh yeah, I've lurked on the AsPD forum-- posters there are catty and funny, but there's no depth to feelings, which is not surprising, given that some pwAsPD lack empathy. They are very rational and don't care what others think, and that's ok to a point. Beyond which there's not much discussion. Not criticizing folks there, every forum has a flavor to it.

But the NPD forum has a depth of, how to put it?---- repressed /unexpressed feelings? that both pwNPD and nons can discuss and understand.

Yeah, they can be funny but I get bored easily because like you pointed out, there's no depth of feeling or real attempts at understanding their inner life, motives or feelings. It's all pretty shallow. I don't find that to be the case on the narc board, and the high spectrum and overt Ns seem to prefer posting on the ASPD board anyway.

I see no reason for a NPDforum mod yet, IMO.

I second that.

I'm not sure I understand the logic here.

If the members of any given forum treat each other with respect, then having a named moderator at the top of the forum name makes no difference.

Most of the time a moderator will volunteer for a certain forum because they understand or have the illness/disorder of that forum. When they post in support of a thread, they are posting as a member.

Having someone moderate a forum is not an indication that, the particular forum needs moderating. For instance, my name is on the OCD forum. 95% of the time, I post in support of people who suffer OCD. The 5% of time I have had to do things as a moderator was a benefit to the members.

Also, all new members, and those who may be a "non" and posting to this forum with "non questions" have to go through a period in which their first posts are seen by a mod. So the issue of "where" a post goes does not really come into question by having a mod named to this forum or not.

Otter.

Otter wrote:If the members of any given forum treat each other with respect, then having a named moderator at the top of the forum name makes no difference.

Hooray, I get to quote myself (better than an edit)! Actually it does make a difference. Having a mod gives the forum members a "go to" person for various issues. Again, for me to be named in OCD, gives members a mod to go to if they have issues concerning the forum. It cuts down on time it takes to find the "right mod" who may be able to help them. Also, I know the regulars there. I have some relationship with them, and understand what they are going through.

When I became a mod it was to help people who are going through what I went through a long time ago. I don't think there is one mod on our team that likes doing the dry-mod-work. We would much rather be making supportive posts, or posting in JFF.

Otter.

p.s - ok, I'm done talking to myself.

p.p.s - I found this thread moderating the forum.

My vote is still for me.

Otter wrote:Also, all new members, and those who may be a "non" and posting to this forum with "non questions" have to go through a period in which their first posts are seen by a mod.

What percentage of new-user posts do you reject (as spam)?

It would be nice if a lower-level moderator group existed which only approved new-member posts. It seems like a slavish, objective role. It would free the standard mods to do more creative, subjective tasks. And, reduce the delay.

It's simple to create a group ("Welcoming team," for example) and give members of that group permission only to approve posts in the moderator queue. Version 3.1 comes with a "Queue Moderator" role. (It should be possible to create something limited like that in older 2.x versions.).

I actually was curious what the mods would say so I posted a question in the member's forum:

Ada wrote:Ah, there are a number of forums that don't have named mods. They are still looked after by the mod team though. Just on a less formal basis than having a designated contact for the forum. A lot of quiet tidying and support goes on behind the scenes. As Truth mentioned in that thread. Anyone can report a problem post at any time. Or PM a mod with a discreet question or nudge.

Mods aren't "different" in any way. Not paid or hired or anything like that. Just regular members who like orderly conversations and calm down chaos. I think several people in NPD are already doing that very supportively. And I agree with those who see it as working well that way.

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Think of it this way guys. Here is the glass half empty view: we don't have a mod.
Here is the glass half full view: we don't need what the *ordinary* forums need. We are special, and therefore we don't need a mod.

unless you are going to comit a coup you are harmless to the people in charge hell you'll prolbebe end up being a usefull idiot
a distraction for what's really going on