requirements for a mate

after posting something in the other thread about how you could be of "value" to your narc, i'm curious as to what your list of requirements would be in a mate.

i'll start:

good looking in a conventional way

has a unique position/talent

high status, upwardly socially mobile- i'm not looking for a sugar daddy but you SHOULD be able to....

confidant

flashy/shiny

interesting

advanced degrees preferred- masters or phd.

now go!

What do you bring to the table?

minus the obvious supply admiration part. i'm just curious as if there are any homogenous traits.

one of my only requirements is education
I will go out with uneducated men if they ask but it's not my preference....

i don't really see this as a narc thing to do....but some people do
sorry i don't want to be with someone who isn't educated...

just kidding i also really like people that buy me things

Pink01 wrote:one of my only requirements is education
I will go out with uneducated men if they ask but it's not my preference....

i don't really see this as a narc thing to do....but some people do
sorry i don't want to be with someone who isn't educated...

yea i'm not really into the plebes. you can be smart without an education, of course. i'll date you if you have marked success in life without an advanced degree.

all the narcs i know date women who are good looking, flashy, popular and shiny who have a "following" or on the lower end of narcs, like my friend "joey", the cerebral one, he goes for the broken girls who worship him.

i believe that a relationship is best when it's among equals or if it's complementary.

sach wrote:minus the obvious supply admiration part. i'm just curious as if there are any homogenous traits.

ya that wouldn't work for me....*flicks gold diggers to the curb*

Pink01 wrote:

sach wrote:minus the obvious supply admiration part. i'm just curious as if there are any homogenous traits.

ya that wouldn't work for me....*flicks gold diggers to the curb*

a lot of hpd are gold diggers or are attracted to a guy who makes a lot of money, it's part of the superficial allure.

i never expect a guy "to provide" for me, i'm not a whore but i like knowing he can, like he's capable. it makes him a better mate. i like dating really rich guys, it's like an ego boost. like haha....models as well.

I care about sexual chemistry the most. I don't care about mutual interests or if she's "spiritual" or whatever. I need chemistry. I don't make commitments to women so I don't care if she has "guy friends" or whatever. We just need to get along. I want someone who helps me feel.

I am in my mid-30s and I am still constantly surprised by which women attract me and which do not. I went out a couple of nights back and the girl at the table who most attracted me was one wearing a sweat shirt and jeans, despite the presence of two other much hotter girls who were wearing low cut tops. I think it had something to do with the way the girl with the sweat shirt was looking at me, like she wanted me to come talk to her, etc. It didn't end up going anywhere, but I guess it was somehow more "supplying" for me to pursue the girl who seemed to want ME, instead of the other way around. Maybe that confirms my sense of entitlement or something. I generally don't do the whole "chase the girl who's hard to get" thing. But I can see how a Somatic Narcissist would do so and find that very supplying, like a conquest or something.

VirginiaEsquire wrote:I am in my mid-30s and I am still constantly surprised by which women attract me and which do not. I went out a couple of nights back and the girl at the table who most attracted me was one wearing a sweat shirt and jeans, despite the presence of two other much hotter girls who were wearing low cut tops. I think it had something to do with the way the girl with the sweat shirt was looking at me, like she wanted me to come talk to her, etc. It didn't end up going anywhere, but I guess it was somehow more "supplying" for me to pursue the girl who seemed to want ME, instead of the other way around. Maybe that confirms my sense of entitlement or something. I generally don't do the whole "chase the girl who's hard to get" thing. But I can see how a Somatic Narcissist would do so and find that very supplying, like a conquest or something.

aha how about "taming of the shrew?" or breaking down estella from "great expectations?"