Early mild signs of MBP?

Are their low level indications that a person might have MBP? It seems my daughter in law never goes to the same doctor. This might be partially due to finances, but it seems she goes to different clinic (free) type places.

The child is now 4 yrs old. Here are some things that give me reason for concern:

She has and continues to claim he is lactose intolerent. (despite his main staple is mac and cheese (which she feeds him). While at our house he has mild and other dairy products with no affect. She continues to give "special" milk.

She has indicated he has asthma, although there are absolutely no signs of breathing disorders.

On one or two occasions, he threw up when it was time for him to go back to her. (My son has joint custody and lives with us). Following this, she took him to a doctor and got a prescription for Xanex. (not sure of spelling but for acid reflux).

Other factors:

She definitly is OCD and hoards, I'd be more worried about the filth in her apartment than any malady he might have.

Due to the clutter and filth, there was never room to crawl and develop his legs normally. He was either held or in a playpen continually. He was also never taken outside to run. As a result, his legs did not develop fully. When in her care, he rarely is outside the house other than in the car to go to garage sales, etc to bring more junk home.

At our home, he loves being outside, riding his bicyle and just doing normal kid things.

However, to this day he still has trouble climbing a flight of stairs which is done one step at a time. By contrast the 3 yr old across the street flies up the stairs 2-3 at a time.

He is an extremely smart boy but through her influences he seems to be fixated on thingss like "dry skin" or clearing his through often to prohibit against getting a cold. There are other medical related words that seem to cropt into his vocabulary at odd times.

My inmpression of his mother (in addition to being extremely lazy) is that she is desperately trying to keep him like a baby.

There is also documentation in court records from a previous divorce indicating a diagnosis of MBP. This, in addition to reference to mental issues going back to when she was a teen ager. (she is now 43). Getting at these medical records might help my son in a custody battle, but with health care disclosure laws, this migght be difficlut.

Any thoughts?

Sorry to hear about your frustrations with joint custody and your former daughter-in-law.

After reading your post and you stating that your daughter-in-law's household cleaning habits are lacking-I did get the impression that your grandson might be suffering from a case of allergies. I know personally as an asthmatic I do have flare ups when I am in an environment which contains my tiggers such as dust, cochroach remains, animal dander, etc. When I am not in those environments-I have no problems. Also the excessive clearing of the throat could be a low grade case of a chronic sinus infection. Just a thought.

Also regarding the lactose issue-Mac and Cheese has very little milk products or nutritional value other than carbs. Kids that have lactose intolerance generally have no problems with this stable.

Regarding the court records-my understanding is that if a judge wants to see her former medical records he can subpoena them. However, I do not believe that you would be able to have access to the information. You may want to discuss this issue with an attorney that specializes in family law.

While I am not saying that she does not suffer from MBP-I do get the impression that there maybe some neglect going on in her household. Perhaps a call to children's services might be appropriate.

If your son has joint legal custody, he has the right to all medical records. My family is going through the same thing with my husbands son, and we obtained 5 years of records. He just had to sign for the records in person at the doctors office.

In our case, the mother with the suspected by proxy disorder has a filthy house and hoarding issues as well. I say "go with your gut". If you think she has a problem, then she probably does.

Filthy house, hmm. There is a strong possibilty that my now ex is MBP, and that would apply to him.

Yes to asthma flaring only when exposed to certain things. I know living with a house full of mice and filth caused me a lot of problems. I rarely had an attack away from home.

Certainly sounds like child neglect at the very least. Hope your son gets custody and SOON.