My mum suspects that my sister has msbp, now that she has raised the concern to me I realise she may be right & I'm so worried, but I don't have a clue what to do. The medical profession have not raised any concerns & we have no evidence whatsoever, except my sister's past & her personality. If I raise any formal concerns, & I'm wrong, I would feel awful & my sister would quite rightly never forgive me. If I do nothing & my neice is being harmed, I'd never forgive myself.
My sister now has 4 children. She abandoned the 1st in appalling circumstances, the child nearly died & it was only my mums suspicions that led to the child being rescued. However we all believed it was post natal depression & unlikely to recur. Social services fought hard to have the child adopted & we fought harder 2 keep the child in our family. Eventually we won.
My sister's second child was placed in immediate care from birth. Again we fought for the child, & following a hasty marriage to the child's father, who had to accept responsibility for the child's welfare, they were reunited. However we all noted that my sister barely bothered with the child, and her husband did 99.9% of the care. She then had another child, who social services were not interested in. Again the father did almost all of the care. My sister showed zero interest in any of her children.
As a result we were all dumbfounded when she told us she felt broody, and dismayed when we found out she was pregnant again. She had joked about having 2 have another child in case she was forced 2 get a job when her eldest turned 7, & to be honest we all suspected she was having the baby purely to claim more benefits. She had nothing to do with her other children after all.
However we were particularly shocked that she bullied the medical profession into giving her an elective caesarian 3 weeks prematurely SOLELY so that she would not lose out on the benefit changes that came into force in April regarding the sure start maternity grant. This is not speculation on my part, she was v open about it & even boasted about how she bullied the drs, telling them she feared she would get one & hurt the baby if they didn't do the caesarian early. Btw this is not the 1st time she has used this argument 2 bully drs & social workers.
My neice suffered severe vomiting as soon as she was brought home & failed 2 thrive. Repeated medical examinations failed to find a cause & inconsistent results were noted following several blood tests. 6 weeks at a specialist children's hospital have failed 2 find any cause. However this can sometimes happen. My niece now has a feeding pump via her stomach. My sister has become a flying parent who can barely leave her babies side & gets incensed if anyone is the least bit inattentive towards her baby. She has already stated she will claim dla once the baby comes home - but is insisting the baby remains in hospital until the council replaster the walls in her council house.
I would appreciate your responses. Am I being unfair?