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Hello everyone.

I'm 28 years old and a single mommy of 3. I have a sick mom. I am under alot of stress. I have also been through many things in my life and I should have went to conseling, but my mom never took me. I should have went to conseling especially being 6 years old seeing my daddy at his furneral. I think I may be depressed or something. I joined this forum hoping it can help me. I been doing good so far then I got slapped in the face (figure of speech) with a horrific event in my life by one of my family members. Ever since then, I sorta fell apart. I am also afraid to go get some conseling because I do not know if my ex-husband can get into my records and take my children away. I understand that this is not a subsitute for counseling, but I am a strong person. I just need somewhere where I can talk about it. Thanks guys.

Blondie,

You should be already proud of how far you have come in life, given all of the things that have 'tried' to take you down. You're still standing though, which is testament to your strength. If you did go to a counsellor, your ex husband would have no legal right to see your records about it. If anything, it would be better to go than to continuw the way things are - I mean, if you sense that things are beginning to come apart again, then it really would be more positive to go (to counselling) than simply doing litte/nothing. What time during the day would you have time to go? Oh, and what is wrong with your mother?

I'm 27, by the way, but have no children of my own.

Let me know what you think.

Take care,
Kevin

Hey Chucky,

I have no idea when I can go to conseling. I do not have a babysitter for my children. It would be extremely difficult to take them with me regarding how deep my problems go and how they all began. This is information I am willing to share with my chlidren if needed when they are older. Right now they are too young to understand the extent of them. They already know not to let someone see them or touch them inappropiate way. I always feared that I would do the same that was done to me to my own kids, but it never happened and never will.

My mother has Ovarian Cancer. I been taking care of her until she moved in with my sister today. This is some relief to me becasue it gives me a break. She says she hates me anyway. I feel my family hates me anyway.

By the way, my children is really where I get my strength at and they keep me going. Other than that, I may have been an alcoholic, drug abuser, prositute, or maybe even an abuser myself. I do have brains, but it would have been extremely easy for me to fall in the trap. I was also a premisious teenager, but that is because no one ever talked to me and my mother left it up to the school system to teach me anything about sex. Cheers.
Karen

Hi again,

If your mother regularly says that she 'hates' you, then perhaps it's not actually true. I have noticed that people who say such things on a regular basis are really just hating themselves, but they wont' admit it. So, they project their internal hatred onto others. THis might not be true in your mother's case, but it is a possibility. Also, you're not the first (and certainly not the last) person who will claim that his/her children keep them together. I have the belief that children keep marriages glued together too, when they would otherwise fail. Problems - in general - have the potential to keep people together too, which is a bit ironic.

I research cancer and so it is something that is always on my mind. I do not know much about ovarian cancer though, as it is breast cancer that I research.

Good luck with everything,
Kevin