by WhiteCloud » Sun Mar 17, 2019 7:47 am
Hello to all, I am WhiteCloud. I have battled several "demons" all my life; Depression, Anxiety/OCD, and the worst: sex addiction. All except the last have bee more or less controlled by medication.
The sex addition began when I was 6 to 8 years old; two neighborhood pre to early teen girls decided to teach/explore sex with me. This continued for a couple of years until one of them and I were caught in her bathroom. I had begun by this time to enjoy the activity so much that I helped with the planning for the get togethers, sometimes with one, sometimes with both. After getting caught, the one I was caught with was shipped out of town to relatives, and the other became too afraid to take chances. I still felt the irrepressible need, so I began introducing a lot of the neighborhood girls, near my age group about sex.
Enough about the historical past, Suffice it to say that from those beginnings, I came to be almost unable to concentrate on anything else. In school one exasperated principal chided because I had a genius level IQ, but was generally flunking my way through school. All my IQ was being used up fantasizing about sex, with classmates, teachers, any good looking girl I saw. I became expert at being able to walk into a group and spot which girls were vulnerable to what kind of approach. Of course by now I was a teen and proud of my ability.
However I was getting nowhere in life or school.
I was reared in a strict religious background, and did not believe in cheating on a spouse. I am now in my mid sixties, and have been married 4 times totaling over 50 years of my life, and cheated on one spouse one time, and the guilt from that was horrible and helped hold me in check. Bur I could not stop the fantasies, nor the excessive masturbation. I could not focus at work for not being able to get my mind off some of my female coworkers. My work suffered as much as my schooling had.
I have now been sexually active for about 60 years, married for over 50 of them with only 1 affair. Yet in the unmarried =/- 10 years unmarried I have had sex with well over 100 girls/women. I also find that because the girls who introduced me to sex were older, I have generally preferred older women.
By the time I was in my forties I began to realize how this addiction was holding me back in life. I tried to suppress it, with varying degrees of success over time, but like cold turkey off substance abuse, it won out over my willpower. I used to also console my self that I was getting older, so that my sex drive should lessen. It has never happened. I am in my 60's and still just as horney and preoccupied with sex as when I was 16. Will my libido really ever drop?
Without this problem, I might have become a brilliant scientist, It has definitely destroyed my lifes potential, but will I ever be free from this burning overbearing unending hunger for sex?