Request for some assistance

Hello ,
im not quite sure how this works,as its my first time posting on a forum.So if you could bare with me,until i get my bearings,i would be really grateful.ive been looking for somewhere to have a chat,with other people experiencing difficulties,like i am.
After an amazing 6 months together,my girlfriend and I started to experience some argument issues.I was sure i was being pretty reasonable,and was totally perplexed,by the nonsense we appeared to fight over.Anyway zoom on three and a half years,and were still enjoying a somewhat on/off relationship,with tonnes of passion,but fights galore.Im not here to rant about her,i just want to vent a little,and see if i can chat with anyone whos experienced,anything similar to me.Basically after doing a tonne of research,to understand what the hell was going on,i believe ive figured quite a bit out,and for all intents and purposes,it seems I have NPD,and she appears to display BPD traits,that seem hard to mistake.I can explain it in more depth if It seems a bit presumptious of me to diagnose myself,and girlfriend.It seemed ridiculous to me,that anything could be wrong with me,after all i was bulletproof,flawless,and a good guy to boot.Ive had an eye opening couple of years,and at one stage,when struggling to accept what i was learning,i felt like i was having a full meltdown.it was too much all at once,and thats still an issue now.Ive cut the story down as much as poss,so i dont bore the pants off everyone,its just a bit of background. We are both partial to a certain drug too,and id like to see if i can learn something about the effects drugs have on PD,and whether NPD and BPD have differing reactions to regular use of amphetamines.Dont know where to post?If anyone could point me in the right direction,or would just like a chat,then that would be cool.Im not really comfortable using my name,so if u could call me Jay,that would be
appreciated.I am a novice,and im still learning about this PD stuff,so i will try my best to pick up all the norms and customs as quickly as i can,but as i said this is my first forum,ive "uncloaked" on and posted on so it all feels a bit alien to me at the moment.Thanks if uve bin patient enough to reach this point.will keep future posts as brief as possible. Jay

Hi -

I was going to move this to the relationship forum, but it seems you want to learn/discuss issues that go beyond just the relationship (individual PDs, etc).

I would suggest you go directly to each PD forum you are interested in learning more about - specifically NPD and BPD. You do not need to be officially diagnosed to participate.

Respect is a must, not only because it is part of the rules, but because you will get more cooperation from the members in those forums. Too often we have people going into those forums angry at their partner for causing problems in the relationship because they have so-and-so PD/illness, and bashing them. It doesn't seem like you would do that, but I wanted to say.

Lastly, BREAK UP larger blocks of text into smaller paragraphs with spaces after the end of sentences. So MANY posts get passed up because no one wants to go through a block of text that seems confusing.

Explore.

Otter.

Just wanted to thank you,for taking the time to reply Otter.Will put your helpful advice to good use.

The last thing I came here to do was blast my girlfriend.On the contrary,I need to find a way to help her.Im here to extract some wisdom more than anything.


Thanks again
Jay

You're welcome Jay. I know you didn't intend to blast your GF, but I just wanted to give you an idea of how things work in the forums. You'll see anyway.

good luck to you and your girlfriend.

Otter.