Hello there

Hi guys! New member here..
I just joined this site after looking things up on it..been wanting to find some type of help for the issues I've been dealing with..Hopefully I have come to the right spot!

Hello 11LaxFh and welcome to the forum.

I hope you find it useful to be here. What type of issues have you been struggling with lately?

Hi! I'm new here too. I don't like much to create new threads so that's why I'm posting here. I'm weird, I guess. Nice to meet you!

Thanks for the welcoming!

I've been going through a lot of mood swings and just feeling down. The down feelings will go away but seem to just come back at any random moment..

11LaxFh wrote:Thanks for the welcoming!

You're welcome.

11LaxFh wrote:I've been going through a lot of mood swings and just feeling down. The down feelings will go away but seem to just come back at any random moment..

Yeah mood swings and feeling down can really suck. That's interesting that the down feelings seem to come back to you randomly. I used to think that happened randomly like that for me too but with an awful lot of observation, I'm starting to gradually realise that most random-seeming mood swings for me are actually triggered by something, even if it seems to be an overreaction to the present situation. I think there might also be some conditions where sporadic mood changes might be a thing that isn't really triggered by anything...

Have you tried working out if there seems to be any pattern to suddenly feeling down? Maybe a person, a place, a time, an activity of some sort? How long does it usually last for you to feel down continuously?

Johnny_Painintheass wrote:Hi! I'm new here too. I don't like much to create new threads so that's why I'm posting here. I'm weird, I guess. Nice to meet you!

Welcome to you also. Creating your own new threads can be really good here because it can make it more likely that people see your post and reply, so it might be something you might like to do in future a bit so that people don't accidentally miss seeing what you had to say...

Triggers do make sense. I guess I will have to try and really focus on what had happened recently to cause a mood swing?
I have tried,but haven't really come up with much. Sometimes t happens when I feel I am looked over(not noticed in the family and the like)..But if that's the case,what would the best option for that be? I can't just leave lol...
The feelings can last for a few hours, to a whole day, to more days out of the week than not..if that makes sense..

Again I really appreciate the help and feedback

11LaxFh wrote:Triggers do make sense. I guess I will have to try and really focus on what had happened recently to cause a mood swing?

Yeah it can take an awful lot of focus and observation to pick up triggers. Putting in the observation to work out triggers is a useful step to try and work through the causes though...

11LaxFh wrote:I have tried,but haven't really come up with much. Sometimes t happens when I feel I am looked over(not noticed in the family and the like)..But if that's the case,what would the best option for that be? I can't just leave lol...

That's fantastic that you can pick up that it is a trigger for you to feel like you have been overlooked. In general, it's not a good idea to start trying to avoid your triggers, because they can escalate your associations which will cause your trigger. To give you an obvious example using trauma instead; imagine a person was mugged on the street at gunpoint at night. They might start to feel feel fear about the street, about guns, and about walking alone at night. If they were then to start avoiding those triggers, they might start to avoid other things related to those triggers. They might start to feel fear about walking at afternoon in case they don't get to where they are going by nighttime, they might start feeling fear around the whole suburb the street was in and they might start feeling more fear around more ordinary objects that can be associated with violence. It can escalate like that if you simply decide to avoid your triggers.

In general it is most helpful to use the information of what triggers you to look at what may have initially caused that feeling in the past. Dealing then with the initial causes of your triggers can help resolve them more fully.

Also by noticing your triggers, you will be able to make a more conscious decision of when you are feeling strong enough to challenge them to help yourself in the long run and when you need to be gentle enough with yourself that you might want to not challenge yourself by surrounding yourself with any more triggers.

Give it a go maybe and see how it goes to observe when you are triggered? It can also be helpful to have a professional to support you through this process, so that may be something you wish to consider also...

I think I have been avoiding rather than addressing the issue..so I can see what you are saying, it definitely makes sense..I will need to focus on what is a trigger and then be able to address them..hopefully I will get to that point sooner rather than later though..

And a question about finding professional support..what is the best way to go about it?

hi there! welcome to the forum!

Vico wrote:Hi! I'm new here too. I don't like much to create new threads so that's why I'm posting here. I'm weird, I guess. Nice to meet you!

Hi. I'm fresh meat too. I like you already.