stealing his energy - can this really be happening

Hello all,

I desperately need advice.

My partner recently confided in me about why he feels so low in energy and why his health is suffering. He believes that people around him, be they friends, colleagues or strangers are stealing his energy. He has even suspected me.

He says that people have some power to look at him and hurt him and take his energy. And that he never knew that so many people had this ability.

I asked him why anyone would do that to him and only him and he says that he doesn't know. He even told me that one of his colleagues admitted to stealing his energy. I asked him to arrange a meeting so that I could speak to this person and find out what is really going on but he gave me many reasons why he could not do this.

I have tried talking rationally with him but he says that if I continue to try to convince that it is not real, he will leave me.

I suspect it is a symptom of something greater but I really don't know what to do. All I do know is that since his sister died he has not been completely well. She was ill for many months and dies 6 weeks before I met him.

I understand that grief effects people in different ways but could it be so extreme? He will not talk of her death, or his grief.

He also refuses to speak with a GP.

Any advice would be appreciated.

How is his diet?

I know when I don't have enough fluids in the day, or lack something food wise in my diet I lack the energy.

Also I suffer from depression and S.A.D so this time of the year is hard for me and I lack alot of energy.

Perhaps it's something like that?
I don't think anyone can steal someone's energy, but perhaps he is suffering from something, getting sick, or lacking something in his diet?

I'm a depressed, highly-sensitive, and very avoidant male....in other words, a real PUSSY. BEING around people sucks the energy out of me, OR somehow I give it away. I'm a real people pleaser and I always end up licking someone's ass in order to "survive". Then i get fed up and leave the situation...AFTER I, once again, dissuade myself from buying lots of firearms. Some psychiatrist named Judith Orloff has done a book about this, but even SHE seems too obsessed with creating problems where they could just be avoided. I don't know how to solve ANY of this stuff. When they start actually WORKING DIRECTLY ON THE BRAIN TO BLAST THIS BAD CRAP OUT, call me.

EMMA needs advice - help wrote:Hello all,

I desperately need advice.

My partner recently confided in me about why he feels so low in energy and why his health is suffering. He believes that people around him, be they friends, colleagues or strangers are stealing his energy. He has even suspected me.

He says that people have some power to look at him and hurt him and take his energy. And that he never knew that so many people had this ability.

I asked him why anyone would do that to him and only him and he says that he doesn't know. He even told me that one of his colleagues admitted to stealing his energy. I asked him to arrange a meeting so that I could speak to this person and find out what is really going on but he gave me many reasons why he could not do this.

I have tried talking rationally with him but he says that if I continue to try to convince that it is not real, he will leave me.

I suspect it is a symptom of something greater but I really don't know what to do. All I do know is that since his sister died he has not been completely well. She was ill for many months and dies 6 weeks before I met him.

I understand that grief effects people in different ways but could it be so extreme? He will not talk of her death, or his grief.

He also refuses to speak with a GP.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Have you heard of the term "Energy Vampires"? It's a very common concept. Many people say others drain them of their energy.

To show you how common it is here's a link to a Oprah show discussing the subject.

http://www.oprah.com/health/omag/health ... ergy.jhtml

Type "energy vampire" into google and have a look.

I don't think you have anything to worry about at all. Saying people are draining/stealing your energy is another way of saying your tired.

Do you happen to know what his sister died of? Is there any mental illness in his family? He may perhaps be suffering from some delusional disorder brought about by the stress of his sister's death and not talking about it. It may be manifesting itself in his paranoid delusions. He probably needs to talk with someone - a pastor, grief or regular counselor to help him figure out how to handle the stress and anxiety he is feeling about his sister's death. He may need some medication for a while until he is feeling stronger. Good luck with this.

Hi all,

I'd like to say thanks for all of your responses.

I'm fairly certain it's not his diet, as his belief is that people are actually harming him with their eyes, he even suspects me and he had to ask me yesterday if I would do anything bad to him. I never would and I haven't but it's almost impossible to convince him.

We spoke more yesterday and he his certain that what is happneing to him is not of this world, that it is based in bad magic or the supernatural. Once his mind is fixed on something it's very difficult to move it.

I agree that there are peopl or situation which drain us of energy and can leave us feeling terrible, but again his description of what is happening is specific - people are actually doing this to him, it;s not a character thing, or a diet thing. It's certainly some form, I believe, of delusion.

He nver discussed what his sister died of; she was in Cameroon and he was in Europe. I'm not even sure he knows, but if he does he's not willing to share it. I feel as though there is a great deal of guilt surrounding her death as he was so far from her, and a feeling of helplessness.

I will see what I can find out about delusions. I feel that it will be very difficult for me to help him though, as he refuses to accept any kind of psychological explanation.

Thanks again,

Emma