I am not alone...

Hi,

Just signed up for this. My fiancee has be badgering me for ages to get online and talk to people about my problems, especially as they might be around in the middle of the night (UK time) when she's rather be asleep!

I have an anxiety problem. It hampers me sometimes, particularly to do with travelling or flying, but in general it just makes my life frustrating. I seem to be scared of everything. It's very annoying. I've been on mirtazapine but, like most people, was fed up of the zombie-fication into this fat, lazy lump so I came off it a week ago. Since then I've been getting terrible withdrawal symptoms: no sleep, constantly on the verge of throwing up, sky-high anxiety. As a result I get a bit restless between 3am and 8am when I seem to be suffering on my own. I decided to come online and chat to people about it, but only if it's not too boring to them! Nothing I'm saying here is new, nor particularly serious compared to other people's problems. Am I just wasting everyone else's time?

Can I ask a quick question as well pls: I'm old old old (well 31) and am seriously thinking about kids. They're just so goddamn cute. Problem is: how can I look after a new being when I can barely cope with life myself? Any sufferers out there with kids? Good or bad?

Anyway for those of you in pain out there, you have my deepest sympathy. For those of you dealing with someone else in pain, you also have my deepest sympathy.

Speak soon hopefully.

P/xli

These forums are a little slow sometimes it sucks. I don't have anxiety though I do have severe depression.

This one time though I got really f*cking scared for no reason.. well.. no... um viable reason to be scared...

Anyway, welcome to the board, its great to find people to talk to there are so many catagorys here to post in.

I just had a baby... but unfortunatly I can't tell you whether or not I can take care of it because I let my mom do that. She does all the feeding, changing ect ect.

I think though if you have the support of your wife that its probibly not a bad idea. I'm sure she'll help you, and you'll probibly be a better dad then you think

paxli wrote:Hi,

Just signed up for this. My fiancee has be badgering me for ages to get online and talk to people about my problems, especially as they might be around in the middle of the night (UK time) when she's rather be asleep!

I have an anxiety problem. It hampers me sometimes, particularly to do with travelling or flying, but in general it just makes my life frustrating. I seem to be scared of everything. It's very annoying. I've been on mirtazapine but, like most people, was fed up of the zombie-fication into this fat, lazy lump so I came off it a week ago. Since then I've been getting terrible withdrawal symptoms: no sleep, constantly on the verge of throwing up, sky-high anxiety. As a result I get a bit restless between 3am and 8am when I seem to be suffering on my own. I decided to come online and chat to people about it, but only if it's not too boring to them! Nothing I'm saying here is new, nor particularly serious compared to other people's problems. Am I just wasting everyone else's time?

Can I ask a quick question as well pls: I'm old old old (well 31) and am seriously thinking about kids. They're just so goddamn cute. Problem is: how can I look after a new being when I can barely cope with life myself? Any sufferers out there with kids? Good or bad?

Anyway for those of you in pain out there, you have my deepest sympathy. For those of you dealing with someone else in pain, you also have my deepest sympathy.

Speak soon hopefully.

P/xli

You can beat/control anxiety with yoga. It's very effective. 10 mins a day of yoga excercise and you'll be right. Join a yoga class, talk to the instructor and get some excercises to do at home.

Thanks for the replies. I will investigate yoga. It's 5am again and I'm awake. Been sick already (anxiety's calling card for me). Have to go to a wedding in another part of the country and dreading it. Y'know you think you're making progress and then you realise you're just standing still. I'm as bad as I was 10 years ago when I first got this condition. It's all a bit hopeless.

P/xli

20 mins later and I;ve been reading others on the board.

Mental ill health is a cruel illness isn't it because it deprives you of hope. I've started coming to this board to try and draw strength from others in a similar situation and to be honest, it's making me sadder. There are no magical answers, no one way works for everyone. All I read about is pain and suffering. I wish y'all peace and hope that you find some solace somwhere. I don't think I'm going to get any. It's all too hard.

Thanks for your help guys. I'm giving up.

P/xli

P/xil,

Not all of us are suffering here. I used to feel total despair, pain and misery at the world/reality I lived in. I spent 4 years in a psych hospital, I just got worse and worse. Some other patients/friends commited suicide and I had plenty of attempts. Things were grim and I had no hope for the future. Then I got really angry about my plight and thought well, I could top myself or really have a go at getting my life into order and live by my rules or at least try before I opt out of life. That was 21 years ago and I haven't looked back or thought about suicide.

Try it before you give up. Look at your life and figure out whats going wrong and what you need to do to put it right.

I had to change my diet.

I moved to the peace and quiet of the country.

I deliberately began to avoid people that were part of my life when I got sick. (These people were probably a major reason I got sick).

Changed my whole social network to people with similar values to mine. (This made me much happier).

Started excercising, yoga, surfing, bike riding, art, playing music.....

I'm buying a house boat in the next 15 months and I'm going to live on 2000 miles of navigatable river. I would never have thought I'd have this opportunity 22 years ago. I'm glad I decided to give it a go instead of topping myself.

Do what ever it takes to make you happy P/xil. Live by your rules, not by others expectations!

Good Luck.