struggling

school can be one of the best places you can be
it is really like a second home to eveyone
so enjoy your school life no matter you are a student or you are a teacher

element wrote:I was told that my suicidal thoughts and my problem with self-injury, means that something definately isn't right with me.
...I don't see any reason why I should be like this. So far I've grown up in a good home, and I've never had anything really traumatic to happen to me. I don't know what's making me this way, but I just don't want to be so messed up!!

Element, if you wake up tomorrow morning and it's raining do you need to know why it's raining?
No....but you do know that you need an umbrella!

Your dilemma is this;do you spend years in therapy trying to understand why you have suicidal thoughts and feel the need to self-injure or do you have someone teach you how to deal with these feelings as they arise today?
Which option makes more sense to you?
Both options involve you getting some help but until you can do that you will keep getting (metaphorically) rained on.

If you are having difficulty talking to your parents about your problems perhaps there is another relative you can talk to who can get the conversation with your parents started for you?
If that isn't possible could you try writing something down and asking your parents to read it before getting into a discussion?

I'm feeling really down tonight!! I'm not sure why. There are a lot of things going on right now, but I still don't know what's causing me to feel so lousy. I'm seriously about cry, I already have teras in my eyes. I'm just really depressed. Just all of these small issues that aren't really even important, but they're upsetting me. Like the fact that my sister has to pick me up from school wednes day through friday, and I like for my mom to pick me up, not my sister. And my sister makes a big deal out of everything, and she's really getting on my nerves about her car and stuff, like my forgetting to lock the doors and stuff, and changing the radio station off of stuff that I know she doesn't even like. And it's really bad when we have an arguement, but especially when we're by ourselves in her car, because there's no one there to help settle it. And I miss my mom and dad so much right now, I'm crying now. I'm just so upset. And I don't want to go to school anymore. I'm just not dealing with all of these changes very well at all. And I'm upset because it's hard for me to have to eat at my school. The kids at my table comment on everything while I'm eating!! "you're not fat, why don't you eat more". Then I do eat more "gosh, you're scarfin those fries down fast" "you're still hungry????!!!". I can't take it!! And then i told my mom and she said don't let stuff like that bother you!! Well it's hard not to let it bother me when it's every day. I don't like eating around a lot of people anyway, unless I"m in a restaurant, I don't know why, but I don't. I'm just so upset. I miss my family so much. I rarely have much time for anything anymore. I just don't know what to do.

I'm tired and I'm depressed. And no offense at all, but I wish I had someone here to talk to, not just someone on-line. Sometimes it's just nice to have someone to talk to in person.

That's not all of what's going on right now. There's more, but I don't have time to type it all. I just don't know what to do, and I'm really really depressed, and I just want to cry. And I miss my dad and my mom, and I miss my grandfather, and I'll never see him again. And I'm just really really depressed.

I wish I could just make everything like it was before, not that I was happy then either. Gosh, I'm so depressed. I just don't even want to deal with this right now. I can't take it right now. I just can't.

element wrote:I don't want to go to school anymore. I'm just not dealing with all of these changes very well at all.

Element, the only certainty in life is change. It does not matter what you do you will never stop the process of change. I know you feel overwhelmed at the moment but the only thing you can do is learn to adapt and flow with this process.
To borrow a Taoist metaphor, we need to flow like water down a river. When the river come up a against rocks the water that crashes into the rocks creates only turmoil yet the water which flows around it remains calm.

While you could drop out of school other changes in your life would occur wherever you went. School isn't all bad though . It's a good place to learn how to adapt to other people while learning who we are. Essentially it is practice for the "real" world that awaits us all when we hit a certain age and have to venture out on our own. So although you are having a hard time there at the moment you may regret it later in life if you decide to drop out.

I think that you know you need some help dealing with your problems. Have you talked to your parents about getting some help?

Oh and don't worry about the probelms with your sister. That's all perfectly normal. You just need to give it a decade or two and you'll be best friends again

I'm sorry, if I was there I'd give you a hug.

Change is very stressful. We just need to look at the natural world to see the dramatic effects that change have on other species.

Man is continually changing the environment, as a result of this change; a couple of species become extinct everyday. This is a powerful example of the detrimental effects change can bring. We should not ignore the effects of change on other species, it is a clear warning from nature.

Change is very stressful and should be avoided where possible as it can damage your health as it does in the majority of species.

The angst you are feeling because of change is natural.

Good luck with it element.

Hello everyone,

Element, the only certainty in life is change. It does not matter what you do you will never stop the process of change. I know you feel overwhelmed at the moment but the only thing you can do is learn to adapt and flow with this process.
To borrow a Taoist metaphor, we need to flow like water down a river. When the river come up a against rocks the water that crashes into the rocks creates only turmoil yet the water which flows around it remains calm.

While you could drop out of school other changes in your life would occur wherever you went. School isn't all bad though . It's a good place to learn how to adapt to other people while learning who we are. Essentially it is practice for the "real" world that awaits us all when we hit a certain age and have to venture out on our own. So although you are having a hard time there at the moment you may regret it later in life if you decide to drop out.

I think that you know you need some help dealing with your problems. Have you talked to your parents about getting some help?

Oh and don't worry about the probelms with your sister. That's all perfectly normal. You just need to give it a decade or two and you'll be best friends again

I know that things are going to keep changing, but going to public school is just giving me way more changes than I was ready for. I'm not thinking about dropping out of school or anything crazy like that, I'm just having a hard time with it--a really hard time.

I haven't talked to my parents about getting help, and I really don't plan on it at this point. I don't see the point anymore. I just don't think there's anything truely wrong with my mind, I think I'm just having a hard time like any other teenager. And if not, eventually I probably will try to get help. 'cuz at times I think I really do need it. I just don't know. but I think if I really needed it I would have gotten it by now, but I may be wrong on that. There's no telling.

My sister is my bestfriend, but I just don't like riding with her to school and stuff. It sux!! And I miss my mom a lot and my dad, and that's usually my time to talk to my mom. There just isn't enough time anymore. I'm anxious to see how God's gonna use all of this. I think everyhing happens for a reason, but It may be a while until the reason for this one is revealed to me.

But I do have good new--I saved a bunch of money on my car insurance by switching to geico. JUST KIDDING!! The good news is that I made a 100 on my history test wich is like AWESOME!! Only one other person has done that in my teachers class before. And I made a 92 on my science test which is great considering that I"m having an awfully hard time in that class.

I'm sorry, if I was there I'd give you a hug

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Thanx, that's definately appreciated!!

Change is very stressful. We just need to look at the natural world to see the dramatic effects that change have on other species.

Man is continually changing the environment, as a result of this change; a couple of species become extinct everyday. This is a powerful example of the detrimental effects change can bring. We should not ignore the effects of change on other species, it is a clear warning from nature.

Change is very stressful and should be avoided where possible as it can damage your health as it does in the majority of species.

The angst you are feeling because of change is natural.

Good luck with it element.

Thanx. I am having some major trouble with stress right now, and I know it isn't good for my health--both physical and mental. But I hope I can get through this okay.

THanx everyone,
I'm feeling fine today
Element

Guest wrote:Change is very stressful and should be avoided where possible as it can damage your health as it does in the majority of species.

I think that the point quiet-loner was making was that if change is inevitable (which it is) we must learn to adapt to it. Trying to avoid change is just stupid and pointless.

element wrote:The good news is that I made a 100 on my history test wich is like AWESOME!! Only one other person has done that in my teachers class before. And I made a 92 on my science test which is great considering that I"m having an awfully hard time in that class.

Congratulations on the tests!
I'm glad to hear that you are feeling better today .

LessThanNothing wrote:

Guest wrote:Change is very stressful and should be avoided where possible as it can damage your health as it does in the majority of species.

I think that the point quiet-loner was making was that if change is inevitable (which it is) we must learn to adapt to it. Trying to avoid change is just stupid and pointless.

Not at all.

Avoiding anything that cause's you unhealthy stress is a wise thing to do. When change is the cause of unhealthy stress it is usually because the change is out of your control, others are imposing the change. The best thing to do is ensure that YOU control the change.

Breaking off dysfunctional or controlling relationships and getting out of peer groups you don't respect is a great way to avoid stressful change that is out of your control.

element,

Stressful change is hard to avoid when you have no say or control in the change.

Removing the power from the people that are controlling and changing your life in ways that cause stress you should be your goal. Example, turn your back on them and walk. Change your life to what’s comfortable for you, to hell with anything that causes unhealthy stress.

Being young wasn't much fun, you don't have much control in your life, but when the time comes, take control and say bye to the crap that gives you grief. It's a great feeling when you do it.