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Postby josian » Tue Aug 02, 2005 8:58 am

Dear Everyone,

I have been surfing this site for about four hours now and have found it very helpful. Extremely. I have seen some definitions and descriptions that hit home.

I have a session booked with a "reality" therapist and my mother this coming week. I have been challenging my mother to enter into any discussions with me and an objective "professional" counsellor present for 7 years. Finally its going to happen and I feel somewhat vindicated already.

In my own therapy for depression and anxiety I have determined that my childhood was characterized by abuse, neglect and abandonment as well as my mother abducted me from my father after the suspicious deaths of my two infant siblings born after me.

Child pornography is part of the story as well as racism. I now believe that ASPD and or HPD (hers) and possibly negativism (me and her) are relevant dx's and I am

a) worried about the safety of confronting these even in a therapeutic setting
b) concerned that my fear leading to asserting myself in the environment will be perceived as negativism or controlling
c) nervous about either a cataclysmic change of dynamic positive or negative

of course all therapy says not to be invested in a particular outcome from your abuser/ but in this case my agenda is to get away from the dynamic with her incontravertable comprehension that my issues are valid.

I would greatly appreciate your input :?
josian
 


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Postby Lynne2000 » Tue Aug 02, 2005 7:57 pm

Are you looking for an apology from your mother or to forgive her? I believe your relationship with her is important to you or you wouldn't be taking her to therapy with you.
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post session and Hi Lynn

Postby josian » Sat Aug 06, 2005 12:47 am

Dear Lynn

Well I'm ready to let go of my mother apology or not, but she doesn't accept this and I find the separation too cruel to continue against her will....Weird?

I am her only surviving child and I feel she is very mentally ill. So I went to the therapy session with her and she was dishonest about our issues and also she accepted responsibility for some things but only in a "I guess so" way..

So, I will go back to therapy with her but I don't think she will expand her efforts so I guess things aren't really going to change. She says she want to do therapy with me so that I will keep her secrets and buy her presents at birthday and mothers etc...

Great!
any response?
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