Friendships (semi-vent)

I am terrible at having friendships - I let myself be used. I am highly maternal and caring and will give unconditional love. Also, I will feel two-faced at the same time as I hear more about a person's flaws and will analyze it to death.

I have become highly cynical and jaded and have grown tired of people. I am very careful with whatever relationships I have only acquaintances with the few exceptions who are my parents and my immediate family.

I hate social events with a passion - barbeques, parties, etc. (you name it.) I prefer lone adventures to the beach with a book, basking in the sun and staring off into the ocean waves and whatnot. Also, when social interaction is required, I prefer 1 person at most to talk too -sometimes two will work but that requires a lot of work for me.

Thank you for reading this. This is my vent - I feel obligated to read yours as well that pertain to the subject matter. (I love honesty.)

*I'd also like to know that I discard relationships when I feel they have gone dry and are one-sided or if I am being used (now, that is). I stop talking to people and go on about my life.

Now criticize me.

Why would we criticize you?

I mean, if you were still letting people use you and stuff, then I'd probably tell you were a(n) -enter negative adjective here-

But you've seen the light. Relationships with other humans are aways bad. Period. Pointless and hurtful.

First of all I would tyry to find bout if your introverted or extroverted,. There are mainly online tests that can help you find this out.

Heres a test http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

Ypur results will consist of 4 letters example ISTJ.

If your 4 letters start with an I you are an introvert. Alternatively if it starts with a E your an extrovert,

Take note of your percentage scores for each letter.

I come out around 95% to 100% introverted for my first letter "I"

I don't hate people, I just prefer it when their not around. Hell for me is some one else for breakfast.

Make sure you type your 4 letter result into google and see what comes up.

Theres nothing wrong with being introverted, don't take any $#%^ from the extroverts.........extroverts are clingy, demanding, neurotic twats anyway!

... jesus

january wrote:... jesus

What's religion got to do with this thread.

Your Type is
INTJ
Introverted Intuitive Thinking Judging
Strength of the preferences %
89 75 25 56


Hmm.

Thanks for the replies guys!

Yeah, I have to be very careful...

Anonymous wrote:

january wrote:... jesus

What's religion got to do with this thread.

That was a "my peeve button just got pushed" jesus. Hence the lower case. I was not trying to envoke God or anything.

Crayon wrote:Your Type is
INTJ
Introverted Intuitive Thinking Judging
Strength of the preferences %
89 75 25 56


Hmm.

Thanks for the replies guys!

Yeah, I have to be very careful...

Hi Crayon,

I'm an INTJ as well.

Heres a link that has links to info about INTJ"s
http://bloginality.love-productions.com/intj.php

I suppose you know our type is only 1% of the population, we are fairly rare.

We are the Mastermind type, the free thinker type! We live by OUR rules no one elses.

INTJ's are shithouse at relationships but that doesn't matter. It matters even less the older you get. I'm 46.

Don't ever beat yourself up for not being good at relationships, I used to, I used to be like everyone else, friendly with a huge social life. I made me miserable.

I now like my own company and silence.

Read about INTJ's.

Type INTJ into google and have a look.

Best wishes Crayon!

I had to try this:

results:

ESFJ
Extroverted Sensing Feeling Judging
Strength of the preferences %
33 1 50 1

I need to improve on my sensing skills, but happy with the rest, I suppose. My extrovert sure has gone down over the years, and I don't judge like I use to either. Age=experience and wisdom, no offence youngens'.


Thanks, ddee

Thanks for calling me a youngen, my gray hair is a dead give away though.

If you wish to double check your results here’s another test. This test is more widely used. And for anyone that thinks these tests are crap.
MBTI is the most widely used organisational and team building tool used in the business/corporate world.


Heres a link to the start of this test.

http://similarminds.com/jung.html