by jasmin » Thu Jun 23, 2011 2:43 pm
So what did your homosexual friends tell you that their struggles are?
Here's what I think. You choose what you do, but you don't choose what you feel, especially not when it comes to something like sexual urges. A psychopath who has violent urges didn't choose to feel that way and a pedophile who feels sexually attracted to kids certainly didn't choose to feel that way either. But a pedophile is a pedophile because of his attraction not because of his actions. Take a look through the paraphilia forum, there are lots of pedophiles who have never abused kids and paraphiliacs who have not acted on their urges, ever. Yet, they are still pedophilies and paraphiliacs.
A gay man is still gay even if he never acts on his homosexual feelings. If he represses them and has sex with a woman instead but he still thinks about men from time to time and feels attracted to good looking men out of instinct, he's still gay.
If a pedophile does the right thing and gets therapy and maybe even has a spouse and family but he still thinks about kids from time to time (without meaning to, even) or he has to restrain himself or talk to his therapist or look away when he sees a child that he might feel attracted to, he's still a pedophile. He has made all the right choices, but he will always be a pedophile, even if he has things under control and he has a happy life.
Now, why are therapy and self control the right choices, in certain cases? Because of the consequences. Pedophilia (if it's acted upon) obviously has very damaging consequences. It hurts the victims and the offender ends up in prison, rightfully so.
Homosexuality has no victims. It doesn't hurt anyone if it's acted upon, it's just two adults indulging, as you put it, in what gives them pleasure. Heterosexuality is two adults indulging in what gives them pleasure too. Pretty much everything is adults indulging in what gives them pleasure or what has other kinds of positive consequences for them, like going to work so they can get paid and feed their family, hanging out with friends, doing other activities that they enjoy like hobbies etc.
Doing drugs has bad consequences because it affects your health, I'm guessing.
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