Ashamed of being Bisexual

Hehehe mr. no one is opinionated but he probably means no harm, johnbc. But, yah, I agree with your opinion on the issue. That is one big "bear" in your av ! Cute

Is talk about our problems all we do here? Or do we actually try to solve them?

Why are people so afraid of solving their problems..

Sometimes talking helps us come to our own solutions. Noone here tells anyone else what to do. Instead everyone shares opinions and the benefit of their experience. From there people can make more informed decisons towards their solution.

Just to pull it back to the actual thread, everyone who is gay or bi or amything other than hetrosexual and raised amongst prodomiantly other hetrosexuals struggles with coming to terms with their sexuality and the realisation that they are normal, its ok and that everything is going to be ok.

RelapsedSaint wrote:Sometimes talking helps us come to our own solutions. Noone here tells anyone else what to do. Instead everyone shares opinions and the benefit of their experience. From there people can make more informed decisons towards their solution.

Just to pull it back to the actual thread, everyone who is gay or bi or amything other than hetrosexual and raised amongst prodomiantly other hetrosexuals struggles with coming to terms with their sexuality and the realisation that they are normal, its ok and that everything is going to be ok.

You're wise RelapsedSaint. I totally agree.

I don't know about wise.... But experienced perhaps haha

Saint

johnbc wrote:god jasmin....well said.

mr. no one
change your life to be a homosexual...sleep and partner with a man. easy as pie...hm? god your a hole of an ass sir. if you cannot visualize yourself partnering with a man...how could you say that a gay man should be able to do?

choice...yah right. change your partner to be a man then come back here and describe how it all work for you.

no i am not gay, could not ever come to wanting a male partner as is all yuk and yuk. that is how the gay man feels on having a straight partner mr. nono. prove me wrong if you will and take a man...hm?

Typical, unfounded, delusional, illogical, pompous, unreasonable knee jerk reaction. Lol You sir are the type of people I am trying to reach. I only have an opinion. As Jasmin and Crystal do. You sir must be of the sort that various opinions are dangerous. This is not true. If a homosexual is truly homosexual according to popular belief, it would be just as repulsive for him to sleep with a female as it would be for a heterosexual man to sleep with a man. But this is not true, there are many documented cases of homosexual men leaving the homosexual lifestyle and sleeping with women, not repulsed as society would have you believe. Therefore what makes you think that I could not sleep with a man? And if I did sleep with a man that I would automatically be repulsed? Would that make me a homosexual? Think things through and don't react with your comfortable ascertainment of society and the status quo. Could it be sir that you have been conditioned to be offended at the mere suggestion that maybe homosexuality is a choice and a bad one at that? Hmmmm.....something to think about eh?

wow did I miss the bit when this thread went back 100 years?

Sexuality is not a choice, it's chemical balances.

As a proud lesbian, I can safely say that if it were a choice, I'd be straight. It's easier. And I wouldn't have to deal with prejudices from people like you.

Yes there are men who identify as gay, who later identify as straight or bi. There are men who identify as straight and later identify as gay or bi. Plus the same statement with woman substituted for men.

Chemical balances change. People learn and accept their sexuality later than others.

RelapsedSaint wrote:wow did I miss the bit when this thread went back 100 years?

Sexuality is not a choice, it's chemical balances.

As a proud lesbian, I can safely say that if it were a choice, I'd be straight. It's easier. And I wouldn't have to deal with prejudices from people like you.

Yes there are men who identify as gay, who later identify as straight or bi. There are men who identify as straight and later identify as gay or bi. Plus the same statement with woman substituted for men.

Chemical balances change. People learn and accept their sexuality later than others.

My only question is this, since when is going back 100 years a bad thing? Like the last 100 years have been a bastion of illumination for civilization. Lol Look around you....we are going the wrong way. And I must say that going backwards might not be the correct answer but.....going backwards in history and finding out that back then they might of been more in tune with reality is especially awkward for us of the present to realize.

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I can safely tell you it is a choice. But the problem with that is it is uncomfortable to change. And that change can only occur if the participant in that change is willing to do so. I know that we are talking about homosexuality right now. I don't want to specifically say that this only applies to homosexuality. I don't mean to pick on homosexuals. My general belief system is that change is possible and everything outside of certain factors is a choice. And in reality, most homosexuals like yourself do wish to change back to heterosexuality. I am just trying to help you do that. But it is difficult when everyone has told you it is not a choice and you have been programmed to believe that and protect that belief system by being offended by those who are supposedly not being tolerant. I say if you really want to change, break free and do it and find any way possible to help you with that change.

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Don't get me started on those "chemical imbalances." I don't think you want to go down that road in taking your apologetic stance for homosexuality. Believe me, it won't stand up to scrutiny. Re-think the position.

going back 100 years in terms of views on sexuality is definately a bad thing. I do not think we have achieved equal rights or appropriate levels of acceptance. However, in comparison to whenit was illegal to be gay, we're definately going the right way!

I assure you I am not preprogrammed to think in the same manner you seem to expect. My situation was very different, i was raised in a colourful setting with variants of sexuality many have never heard of. It's not choice. Someone may choose to experiment. But a long term sexual partner.... It just doesn't work unless that attraction is there.

Please check your ego, and scrutinise away. All you are proving is your archaic prejudices and loosing face each time you preach them.

Homosexuality is not human specific, it occurs in nature and other species like chimps and dolphins. So your statement of some kind of socialogical pre programming is floored. Such social dynamics are absent from out animal counterpart's society's, as they follow a sociology different to that of humans.

Mr. No One is right. The direction we are going isn't too great. Think back to the Roman Empire, which fell on its own head because of the liberal freedoms of society.