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Just as i thought everything will be is okay and as i started with new mindset to join someother college, there was a quarrel b/w me and my family members. I want to leave the family now, i'm sure that i'l have a pacified mind with it. Everything looks unclear with my family, i cant care anymore on them. I'm ruining my life due to them. But money is going to be a problem, if i split.

I'm sorry to hear that. Why were you quarrelling? How are you ruining your life due to them? Why is everything unclear with them?

First you say that your all relatives and all people around you say that you should change your attitude but according to me each and every person is right on his/her place.But sometime what happen that the person who think so,he/she should not stick at his/her decision may sometime they get wrong.So think on what the people say to you around you and then after take any decision.And as for the job I don't think so that people who have degree can only get the job.I think that if you have experience and knowledge and intelligence then you can get a job.I know that today degree required but not every time.So think on it.

they are jus stupid idiots, having no commonsense or knowledge about the real world, they still look the world the present world has that which was 30 years ago. They cant understand me, i'm requesting her to change the home to a new place where i can get some peace of mind. But no, they dont understand. So i've planned to leave them, but still finding that difficult.

I know that i can get a job for myself. I know that, i was pretty unsure of it before, but now i know what it is.

How much have you discussed all of this with them? Though you may think about all these things a lot you may not have been discussing them as well as you think you have so maybe they just think this is all on a whim and will blow over?

Some people struggle to move with the times and it can't be helped. They will change in time, probably when you've moved out to be fair.

At least you have the self confidence knowing you can get out there and get a job regardless of if you have a degree, you have the confidence to move out and you are intelligent enough to see this will be hard but as long as you know what's coming I think you'll be fine. You seem like a tough cookie with a good head on your shoulders.

Keep me up to date on how things are x

At last i'm truly saying what has actually happened. Some of our relatives who were jealous of us. And we came to know that 20 years after they had done it. That was probable the reason we suffered all those years. My mom is stupid enough to still believe in those people Whatever i ask her to do, she seems to be cautious and asks them for their views on it.

I wanted to change the place where we are living, so that i'll get a peace of mind. Since i came to know this very recently, i became superstitious. This became an added up problem for me, which includes a list in my first post.

Okay fair enough, that sounds odd. Why did they do that? Are you a very tight knit family and have to have the positive expression from elder relatives in order to move forward in life? Have you been brought up in that sort of pagan lifestyle?? What did they think about you taking a degree, did you need permission to do so?

So now do you not think you will have peace of mind by moving as you think they may do it again? What problems have you and your family had since their actions? Why will you delete the post once I have read and responded? Do you think someone of your familyh will find and read it and bring more displeasure your way?

sorry for being late.

I just thought that my mom is the one who cares for me, i even thought that i should never question her. I felt like changing my attitude of looking her.

Okay fair enough.

Have you spoken to them about their jealousy?

How're you and your mum now? So will you have to move with your mum if you decide to move? Could you not move out on your own?

You say "our country" but what country are you in?

Have the problems at home with health and electronics ceased at all? Have you not thought that there may be another reason for all that has been happening like strong electro-magnetic fields?

How far through your engineering degree are you? Are things going any easier? Are you able to resit the exams you failed in?

At least you have some of your family that still stand by you all and support you, it's better to count even the smallest of blessings

Have you spoken to them about their jealousy?

No, i cant do that. I'm afraid that they come to know everything.

How're you and your mum now? So will you have to move with your mum if you decide to move? Could you not move out on your own?

I'm trying to go away from them, but sometimes i feel i might be wrong, moreover my attitude on her keeps changing. If i feel like leaving once, again i feel like i'm wrong.

You say "our country" but what country are you in?

India

Have the problems at home with health and electronics ceased at all? Have you not thought that there may be another reason for all that has been happening like strong electro-magnetic fields?

Hadn't thought like that before, may be thats true. Sometimes i feel ' Why us Lord?', all probs come only to us. Even a newly bought machines are in ' not working condition'.

How far through your engineering degree are you? Are things going any easier? Are you able to resit the exams you failed in?

I'm half way through the degree. I know i can, but i'm ignoring a bit(because mom doesnt do what i say), it's pulling me to stop doing it. I wanted to concentrate on it with a fresh mind, in a new place. But they are not supportive to it.

At least you have some of your family that still stand by you all and support you, it's better to count even the smallest of blessings

I know that.... But when they act stupid, i feel in the opposite way.

I think i need to end this thread, i'll shifting myself to a new place, leaving them. I do have exams in about 2 weeks.
Thanks for your Help.