Moderators need support too , okay?

I think it's best if moderators use another nick. At least in some cases, with myself, I've become suicidial a couple of times. Well consumed with thoughts of suicide, I'm never sure I really want to die but such a control freak, I need some kind of control where there is none. That's another issue.

I've had no problem getting support while using my moderator nick. None at all. I do know that one person that complains about this kind of thing really reacted to what I had to say to them once. (It's not Dee). There were some pretty obvious things going on with the person but she was really upset with me. If you ask for help, then you should maybe consider listening to what's said to you.

Heck, I'm not expert but I know more than the average lay person. Not a boast, it's just true. My therapist agrees, she told me "you do know your stuff."

If you don't want to hear what's been said to you, then don't hear it. But don't threaten the person that offered you support. I can't remember who did this with me. But it did happen.

The reason I became an moderator is cause I know everything. LOL, I'm kidding. But since I have paranoid personality disorder I probably come across that way at times. It's a common characteristic. Not one I'm proud of. I fight it, but I'm sure I'm not 100 percent successful at keeping my ego in check. I have found that by helping others, I've learned much more about myself. I've always learrned about things when I try to explain them to others. I learn far more than I share, in part because most of the time we are not ready to listen.

There's another reason why a moderator might not get support, we are the ones doing most of the posting, we could just post to ourselves? LOL I'm kidding again.

Oh I forgot one of my main points. If I'm posting, feeling suicidal, and I've got moderator after my name, it's almost like it's an official part of the forum. It's not at all. The moderators often say things not the official opinion of the owners. But it's almost like an endorcement of behavior that I know logically I wouldn't want anyone else to do. I don't think it would even need to be a huge secret. In my case that would never work, cause when I moderate I talk about my own problems. If I come in with another nick, people will know it's me. That's okay. That way it still becomes unofficial that way.

To me the easiest solution when you want to post from a personal perspective....as in not under the wing of "moderator" after your post name....why not have a second registered user name....then when you want to log on in "Mod" form you can do that and when you want to log on as your personal name, you can do that too! I've not done that yet, but it's always a consideration.

by the way...welcome back...nice to see you back on the boards!

I can't speak for everyone else, but I'm glad you're here--all the moderators, that is. I stumbled across the forum recently and needed help. Just reading what you wrote helped lots--it made me feel less alone, and misery does love company, right? I guess I just wanted to say you're appreciated... I will keep in mind what you said about replying to your posts and make sure that anytime I feel like I can add, I will.

Angel, the way I see it is why should we have to post under a different name, we are obviously here because we suffer from something.

I no longer post here but use my own forum or other forums now... because of the lack responses etc, I have used an alias, but don't bother with it anymore.


Now I just moderate...


Thanks chickadee for that comment, I'm glad someome is happy to have us around here... lol.

But since I have paranoid personality disorder I probably come across that way at times. It's a common characteristic. Not one I'm proud of. I fight it, but I'm sure I'm not 100 percent successful at keeping my ego in check.

I was wondering if I may ask, how paranoid personality disorder affects ego. I am not familiar with what this part of the quote is talking about. (Thank You for your time) :0)

I came here looking for support and help and have been ignored. Not one response. I came here from the BPD community (though I am not fully BPD) and have gotten lots of support and responses from them.

Here is my pet theory.

People seem to fear being shown to be wrong or inferior. People fall-in behind leader-figures by nature. Leader-figures have prestige, and disagreeing with a prestigious person or being shown to hold a different opinion from a prestigious person can mean that one loses prestige.

So I think people are afraid to engage moderators generally because moderators are too prestigious. It comes with the territory.

Thank you for your response.

If I ever act erogant please tell me okay? I just volunteer to watch over the forums for abuse, and spam, move posts to appropriate areas. I offer advice in areas that I am familiar with just like a member, and answer unanswered post if I can. You can see from the above post people get upset or feel left out if not replied to.

But I originally came here for support like everyone else, and many of the mods gave up on getting any support. When we no longer can help ourselves thru this forum or help others the point becomes null for me.

Thank you so much for replying.

Just a quick question. Can moderator's write new topic's that are not sticky's? If not, most of the time when I see a sticky I think that it is just informational and not a topic for advise.

Kayty