parents

Im going to flat out say it... I hate my parents. I want to be completely separated from them I even want to change my last name and never see or talk to them again... they are annoying.. they over react... they dont understand me... they are predictable, I always know exactly what theyre going to say... its like a coincidence and I absolutely hate coincidences.... hate coincidences with a passion. I just flat out hate conversing with them because theyll always say the same stupid crap..

Im almost 21... about to move out, finally found a good way to do it... Im very excited to leave. Im a college student but I commute to school, I chose to live at home even though I didnt want to because its so much cheaper... my only expenditures is my car, car insurance, classes... gas for car... clothes anything simple like that... I enjoy not havin to make all this payments to live out of house.. but I sacraficed having a fulfilled happy life just to save money and stay at home.

I finally got a scholarship with the NAVY, they pay 100% tuition, books, fees, as well as full Health, Dental benefits among others... along with a $2000 monthly salary just for going to school... I have 2 years before my degree is completed and then in return I have to serve 5 years as a commissioned officer.. so life is looking good now.

I absolutely hate trying to communicate with my parents.. anything I say no matter how good I think it is ... its never good enough for them... its like Im their test subject and I am suppose to do everything they want. Anytime I say something good that happen they always have to bad mouth it.... or they turn something positive into the most negative thing.. they completely derogate my life and Im ######6 sick of it.

So I have just stopped talking to them.. if they ask me something I just give them the shortest reply as possible because I just dont want to talk to them anymore. Its annoying and I hate I have to do that... I dont know what my problem is really all I know is that any kind of communication between my parents and me it feels FORCED... and I just damn well dont want to talk to these people.

Even though Im over 18 I do not know why theyre allowed to not let me see friends or go out with anyone... I never understood that.. because Im at least 18 I can make my own choices and I tell them that.. but they will say ... youre at least 18 but you live in our house you follow our rules... dont like them then leave.. I couldnt leave because its expensive.. at least where I live it is. So whenever I wanted to see a friend or a girl I always had to do it behind their back or I would just say "Im going up to the store or school... for work Ill be back late" that has a 50/50% success rate.

Ive lost sooooo many friends because Im not able to hang out with them... I try and tell people that my parents wont let me out.. but I guess they see that as unusual and think Im lieing or maybe they see it that Im not interested which is completely the opposite... so I end up to them being a huge FLAKER. As soon as I step out the house I just get this feeling of excitement I feel this huge grin or smile come on my face and I just feel totally free like Im real... like I actually matter.. alive and productive. its a good feeling.

I havent even told them about my NAVY scholarship yet... I dont plan to either... they know I went to the recruiter and they know I did the physical but they dont know Im actually going through with it.. I dont plan to even say anything... once I start packing Ill just say Im moving out.

"Im going to flat out say it... I hate my parents."
this is a teen cliché-when your twice your present age you will know this cliché
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"they are annoying.. they over react..."
they have millions of reasons to do so,open your eyes and see the crap around the school, streets,& so called loyal friends--a friend to fill the gaps (a guitar friend;a bus friend,a friend on the phone;a party friend;a friend for every occasion___,very temporary,very short-lived.
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"they dont understand me... they are predictable,"
sure they are-THEY WERE YOUR AGE ONCE-at a time when things were a little smoother-less hectic.
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"I just flat out hate conversing with them"
sure you have no one to talk-they don't know how your mind works or ticks-it may take a lifetime to truly understand someone.different wave-lengths in some areas--but later when you age,you will find some similarities
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"Im very excited to leave"
you can never really leave your home-no matter how you physically try-it won't work-you may not have them before your eyes-but they will be with you-like an emotional burden-good & bad.
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Go ahead join the navy,
tell that to war veterans-the patriotic crap
-I think if you look on this forum their is some guy who went to war---CORRECT DIAGNOSIS by GUEST-pow: means prisoner of war
when you look down the barrel of a gun, will it be worth the money saved.Or the nice title.
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The " its never good enough for them."
I understand encouragement is something hard to get--IT WAS FOR ME_I NEVER GOT ANY-or don't realize it.-a little appreciation wouldn't hurt----they are not perfect I guess.
"or they turn something positive into the most negative thing." perhaps its a common mistake we all make--we should focus more on the good instead of the failures.
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" Im over 18- I do not know why theyre allowed to not let me see friends or go out with anyone."
their was a time when the legal age was 21.
the male brain stops growing around 21, the female brain around 30- I believe-these are not justified scientifically I guess or proven.
as I mentioned your friends think first of themselves-then their ego & agenda-then last yourself.Peer pressure will destroy all common sense.
your parents are over-protective & with good reasons I might say. It's a jungle out there.
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"and think Im lieing "
95.5% of humanity lie--your parents have good reasons to rub their heads--trust is supposedly
something you must earn.I understand its crappy when you tell the truth &.........
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" huge FLAKER" being popular = popular values
need I say more.........
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Thinking with anger produce unpopular results.
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I don't wish anything for you,nor hope you well,Am not sorry,and don't REALLY REALLY care for you...........

-that is honesty for you
I do not know you-THAT IS HOW LIFE REALLY REALLY works-you will learn that the hard or difficult way as the years past.Beautiful,warm & fuzzy thoughts won't help you either.
you may not be perfect either-I don't know;
--your priorities,values,notions might just be out of whack as ALL THE NON-PRODUCTIVE WORDS HERE ARE.no words will help you here.You are looking here for understanding,compassion,yet you will get artificial results or success from artificial mediums.

I dont hate them to the full extent...I just hate what they do and how I feel when Im at home. I just want to be away from it all... all of it.. just gone.

They fight and argue, they should be divorced, it makes no sense why theyre still together when theres obviously nothing "there".

I told a girl about my situation and a lot of other things around december 04... she told me I need to get out of there... and then she never talked to me again after that night. I havent trusted anyone since.

Only thing that bothered me about the post from 'neighbor' .

Go ahead join the navy,
tell that to war veterans-the patriotic crap
-I think if you look on this forum their is some guy who went to war---CORRECT DIAGNOSIS by GUEST-pow: means prisoner of war
when you look down the barrel of a gun, will it be worth the money saved.Or the nice title.

Its people like those, thats the reason why youre still here today. not only that but you are disrespectful. That quote alone makes the rest of your reply invalid, it contradicts the rest of your post. yakasushii hit those points as you see.

Im not worried about dieing as long as I did something good for others. I dont expect anything in return. Yes I have the opportunity to do something that many dont have the chance to do... the opportunity to to inspire others through action.

Im not going in enlisted, Im going in as a commissioned officer, its different.. but not too much different... everyone still has a part.

I dont need validation, compliments, or a title to define who I am. All I want is to be happy.

travis---print out what I wrote & let your parents read it--OR-- re-read it in 10 years--
I did not mean any disrespect-I assure you,only that "we all wish to hear about the things that please our ears-and get responses in that same ALIGNMENT"
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as for the one named "yakasushii" I do not know why she feels as if I wanted her responses-or why she feels as if I'm pointing the finger at her----I NEVER ,RARELY RESPOND to other than the original posting, all other names I skip-(I read only 2 paragraphs from her before I skipped----WHY WOULD I GET CAUGHT UP in quarrel-I don't question my statement or what I wrote---
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the first day that YAKASUSHII joined us on april 15 ,she posted 14 replies or posts,as for me it takes around 40 minutes just to answer 1 post.I DON'T JUST THROW OUT THERE INFO-i think for some time before I do.
if -I don't question my statements,then I skip the other participants other then the one I post.
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I don't wish anything for you,nor hope you well,Am not sorry,and don't REALLY REALLY care for you...........
-that is honesty for you
I do not know you-
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AS your search in life will be in vain,you will find the above statement ring true-when all else fails,THE ONLY ONE WHO CARES FOR YOU(besides the immediate family perhaps) IS YOU.