Chucky wrote:Like, the person who has died is simply gone, and logically we shouldn't feel sad for them. I mean, they have no thoughts anymore and cannot feel happiness or sadness. However, it is those who are still alive who will feel the loss, and therefore we focus on their sadness...?
Yes, that is exactly how I feel about it. And thousands and millions and billions of people have died and will continue to die for a long, long time, so why feel sad for just a few of them? I would feel sad if someone I really loved died, but that would only be because I missed them and I would feel the same simply if they moved away and I never saw them.
I have felt some kind of sadness when some relatives have died, but mostly because of the fact that I will never see them again and that feeling is really unsettling to me; not because I miss them as a person, but just that there is something different. I guess I have a problem with losing things. I used to have a really bad problem with not being able to throw things away, and sometimes still do.
I do hate when some people die though, because I feel so incredibly awkward around people who are close to people who have died. I can't stand funerals. When I had to go to my grandmother's funeral (a year ago this Saturday, actually), I actually cried because I felt so painfully awkward being surrounded by my grieving family and not even knowing how to act. That was one of the worst experiences I've ever had.
Sorry, I went a bit off-topic.
P.S. A little more on-topic, I thought I might add that I shed tears two or three times watching Glee when it was on a couple of hours ago.
To add to what I said earlier, I actually find it weird that I'm so emotional. For some reason, I don't feel it fits with the rest of my personality. Or it seems a bit like my logical side and emotional side avoid eachother, or otherwise simply disagree. That probably sounds stupid, but whatever.
And there are too many possibilities.
"This is the price you pay for loss of control." - brandnew