2D VS 3D

I'm an interwebz junkie... I can admit that...

Here's the thing, though. I'm forcd to be an internet junkie because I can't function correctly in the three-dimensional world.
I have somehow managed to become to socially inept that I can't even make friends anymore.
I blame the internet.

I love the internet... don't get me wrong.
2D people are easy to deal with because there's an exit button and I no longer have to deal with you...
But if the internet is sucking me dry and this forum is the closest thing I have to a social life...
Well I think something is wrong...

Anyone else avoid the 3D universe by being here?
Or have ANY idea what I'm talking about?

I do indeed understand what you're talking about. As much as I like the Internet, I know that I'd be better off without it. I think that technology is like a poison that is doing nothing good for society on a grand scale. People will claim that it saves lives and such, but on the whole I think the world would be better off without it. This is what the UnaBomber believed too, except that he felt the need to send bombs to people to get his point across (which I wouldn't do). I try to minimise thea mount of time I spend on the Internet. It's not my friend - I have no friends, 2D or 3D.

Nice to have you back SmileXx.

Kevin

Yep, definitely. Why do you think I'm here so much? I'm a lot like you: talking about other folks' problems keeps me from thinking about mine.

That's why it's especially hard to moderate the BPD forum, where my unresolved/continuously resolving issues and this forum's issues meet.

What I've learned is that, one way or another, the problems I have are gonna show. So I still keep my journals, I talk to my counselor. I recognize now that I need to deal with my issues, or they're just gonna keep coming back.

Here's how I transition from 2D to 3D:
- I take inventory of who I like on "teh internetz". Then I take a sub-inventory of what I truly like about those individuals (whether they really are that way or not). I actually write out descriptions of what I think these people are like. How I would want them to be if I knew them in 3D. Not how they "probably" are, but what attracts me to talking to them.
- I then take those "inventories" and see if I can find 3D people who come close to fitting those descriptions. I've found that most people can't fill the ideal role, so I just focus on things that are the most important to me.


By the way, I'm really glad that you started opening up more. When I finally started being open about my problems and confronting them in a safe environment (mainly here), I started to get better by the day. Sure, I cried, I got scared, I occasionally felt like complete shit--but I moved forward.

*Cheers for opening up.* You ain't alone...by far.

--Frayed

I got myself a livejournal when I was banned, just because I figured I could do the same thing I do here, comment on other people's lives and try to help. I already keep 3 or 4 journals, but the livejournal was neat because people commented me too.
Lots of shutins out there trying to find a connection on teh interwebz.

Anyway... I have my friend coming in from North Carolina to live with me, and I'm trying, really hard, to be open to more people, since the bf has people he wants to intro me too...

Frayed, your system won't work for me.
I like 2D people because I can exit the window and they don't exist anymore. Anything else about them is sidebar.
I'm not picky about my friends when I can make them; I'll take anyone. I just hate everyone...
Though recent events make my lack of friendships seem SOOOOOO irrelivant that I'm not sure why it bothered me so much.

It's about pushing yourself every now and then to meet the 3D people, isn't it? I live alone though and cannot imagine the thought of living with another person (apart from a partner or my family members who I grew up with). Is 'shutin' a commonly used word over there? It's never used here, but do'nt quote me on that because i'm a loner and don't get out much.

Is your boyfreiend the super-social type?

Kevin

He's fairly social. A good deal of friends and he likes people, he LOVES attention...
He's a lot like I was back before people scared me.
I'll be glad when he's healed up and we can have people over again.

Shut-In (shutin) just means hermits and anti-social people that don't leave their house, want nothing to do with the outside world, etc. It's just a term I picked up in Psych class or somewhere like that.
I know lots of them. They're... interesting people.

The internet world is new to me and I wondered if I could end up getting addicted or something (but I don't really care - there are worse addictions to have I guess)

I have had a bad, bad 2 weeks or so and coming on here (to isolate) for at lease an hour or two when I can escape has helped me deal with the stress. I can speak in a way that I can't in my 'real' world.

I don't tell many people what I go through because I ... just can't I suppose. They know that I am under stress due to my partner being ill and my work but they don't realise that I have problems too because I hide it.

Be careful that the internet doesn't become you're whole world.
I'm here because I started on the internet as a place where I could be that side of myself that I can't be to other people... the way I mouth off, or what's wrong in my life, etc...
And slowly I became an interwebz junkie with no social life, because those people out there don't get me...

Odd thing, though...
I wrote my friend, who moved away, as much as I was on the interwebz. I even wrote her about the same thing I would post here, or in my blogs, or whatever... and now she's coming back.
She's moving into my basement, even... and I'm excited... because instead of writing her, I can just tell her.
I think it'll be a good step toward being me again... a social me that is prepared for anything and anyone.

I already feel better and she won't be in for another month.
^_^
It's the little things that perk me right up.

Thanks SmileXx - I will be careful.

I hope it all goes well for you with your new lodger/housemate. When I imagine having a female friend living with me (a real close friend) I can see the appeal... all those long conversations and being able to totally open up. For me, those friends are few and far between and now it is all a bit stuffy and difficult.

Is your bf the type of man who likes having women around? Mine wouldn't cope with having more than one living with him. But, then, I don't think I would like to live with more than one man so I am not much better.

I'm not really a "long, girlie conversation" kind of girl. Neither my friend.
I mean, we can talk fashion and crap when it arises, but we're more likely to talk art and crafts and gorey horror flicks...
ESPECIALLY gorey horror flicks.
I really like her because she's like me: not super girlie and obsessed with weird crap.
Hahaha...

My boyfriend has a lot of female friends anyway, but recently he's been aching for me to get one of my friends back to being super close. He's been offering that basement to every friend of mine to come through our door.
When I told him my friend was coming to live with us he was fine with it. Happy even.
He thinks it'll be good for me... and it'll help with rent. Hahahaha...

I couldn't live with more than one man either...
I'm hoping I can live with 2 people at all... never done that before... my mom was all I had growing up except when we temp lived with my grandma who stays in her room all the time (so it's like she's not there).