My husband addicted to cyber sex........

Hello, well, I am sure you have heard it all before and to make a very long story short my husband has been caught many times on the net and after almost nine years he has admitted to me today that he was glad that I found the website he has been going on because like so many others he has said that the thrill of the secrecy has gone from him now because I know. And that the fact that the whole idea of fantasies was getting old I beleive that he has made the decision to quit himself.

He was 33 when he first had real sex with me and I can understand before he met me that it would have been okay for him but now, that he has me, things should change.
But I think it was all the denial about it that hurt me, I mean, he would tell me things like I was a looney and he could not really see how this was affecting me but because of his own sense of denial he was making it look like I had the problem not him, but, as I said he seems to be coming around and I have faith in him that this phase is over but it takes work! It takes not giving up on him no matter what or how I had been made to suffer.

I pray, I pray for GOD to work on my anger, and the fact he betrayed me and for GOD to give me a forgiving spirit and I asked GOD to work on him, convict him when he attempts to have setbacks, to make him see that he is only hurting himself. But when my husband said it made him feel dirty like he wanted to shower afterwards that was him telling me how he felt, to all those who are struggling, have faith, pray.....*mod edit*

Wow, that's great that your husband is admitting he has a problem and seems ready to take some steps to work on this issue. That can often be the biggest hurdle to get over. But I know you need to find some healing as well after all you've been through. So, I'm not sure if you've considered this already, but it may be helpful for you and your spouse to look into some marital counseling. Your husband might also want some individual counseling if he's dealing with an addiction-this is often not something you can quit on your own. Accountability partners also can be key. Of course, I realize counseling can get expensive, so support groups might be another option. I've heard of one called Celebrate Recovery that's often hosted at local churches. So, you may want to pull up their website and see if there's something in your area. Just a thought. Well, most of all, I just wanted to say that I'm praying for you both and asking that your marriage be restored. Blessings!

I have the same problem with my fiance but he is not admitting to it ... I caught him many times on having online affairs or however I can call it, but he always finds excuses ... I've tried to talk multiple times, but he is running away every single time ... I'm tired of his promises because we both know I won't believe it anymore and he won't change anything anyways. I truly love him and somehow I know he loves me too...but I can't live my life like this.
I caught him a few days ago... he panicked, tried to have sex with me telling me how much how loves me and all that and I was just staring at him I couldn't scream, cry nothing ... since then he is doing everything to please me and I would love to just forget it but I can't !
I need to talk about it, but how ? We've been together for almost 4 years and I don't wanna just give up ... another thing is that he is a doctor and I'm 9 years younger than him so I feel that it's almost impossible to try to tell him that he has a problem or something is clearly wrong with him ...
I cried a river and I feel so hopeless

If he lost his virginity at 33, that means he had one hell of a dry spell. His brain is ruined from the porn. Real women and real sex aren't going to be as great for him because he's been watching for porn for so long.