ruined day, then ruined week, then ruined life

Have you ever experienced something similar?:

I've been struggling with insomnia since about 15 or so. First it started with worries about how healthy I would look the next day and would I be able to attract girls like I normally did. This turned out to be a valid concern, so I obsessed and obsessed over it to this day. I'm in my mid 30's now and I am able to do well with women when I have gotten adequate sleep, but have no chance when I don't. Maybe it's my genes that cause my eyes to sink in and look unhealthy, I don't know. I'm taking 3 or 4 medications for sleep, and I am able to get some, but rarely over 5 hours. 9 is what I need to feel healthy. I have realized at this point my problems with sleeping are largely psychological. I just don't know how to take action on that knowledge.

I mean, I have felt like my life depends on sleep for 16 years. How do you cope with that and rid yourself of that crippling fear and self-fulfilling cycle?