Regrets

Hey all -

I've been thinking lately about how my home life has affected the way I have grown intellectually.

There are so many opportunities that I didn't take due to having depression for so many years. For example I got into two different governors' schools but I didn't go to either of them. Those would have helped me learn to socialize better and understand more on an intellectual level. I would have probably had fun, but I didn't go.

I regret the friends I lost touch with due to depression.

I regret not having a decent time at ALL in high school. Everyone else was going through some rough patches but I was just absolutely miserable and still am, but things are starting to look better since therapy.

How do I cope with these losses? I feel like a child still. I want to go to summer camps and learning environments but those opportunities are dwindling the older I get (I'm nineteen).

How do you deal with regret and lost time?

I'm sorry you regret missing out on things when you were younger.

I've felt like that as well. I've let oppotunies go by and, although I've taken just as much, the regret is still there. I find the best way to deal with lost time and regrets is to make up for it and quickly by finding other things to do. If you starting regretting things you didn't do, you'll be hesitant to do anything else, leading to more rgret and lost time

Please don't get downheartened though. You feel as though you've missed out, but there's still enough time to fix that. Try and explore other possiblities you can use. Depending on where you are, you might find there's isn't much, but you shouldn't give up. Ask someone if you could tag along to things they do. Take it slowly and things may develop.
I'm only offering my opinion here since all people find motivation from different things, but if you think you can do it, you can. Trust yourself and see what happens.

Hope you feel better soon
DJM19

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I am slowly becoming more...interesting and interested in the life that I have been given.

It's no trouble. I know it takes time to come to terms with regrets, but once you start to appreciate what you still have and what you can still achieve, it does get easier.
Just give things a try and see what happens. Don't write things off as a complete failure, try and see what it's done to you in a good way, even if you think it didn't help.

Hope you find better times ahead. Let us know how you get on.
DJM19