Any Help Appreciated

My friend is a 23 year old female whose mom has OCD where she thinks everything is dirty. This has been going on since her dad cheated on her mom when she was younger. There are 4 kids who are young adults now, oldest moved out at 17 to escape the next one married at 20 to escape and the 23 year old and an 18 year old are still in the house. From a young age they were forced to wait outside for 10 to 12 hours while the parents cleaned the house, and would have to walk to a gas station if they needed to use the bathroom. The father would do nothing to help the kids. Sometimes they would have to sleep outside while the parents cleaned the house. Most of the time when the kids got gifts, i.e. clothes, toys, and other things they were thrown in the garage into a pile. The parents would make the kids go to school wearing wet clothes and sleep on wet sheets with no blankets. They refuse to this day to use the dryer and the 23 and 18 year old still wear wet clothes. I have talked to them and tried to get them to leave but they think their parents wont love them anymore. She has even said "If I want to remain involved in my families life I have to accept things the way they are. I have tried to tell her that she is being manipulated and controlled by her parents and she has become increasingly depressed. So I am hoping any advice or comments from other people might help.

Thanks

Hi, gary! That does sound like a disturbing, abusive situation. Are the two other siblings still talking to your girlfriend and her 18 year old sibling? Maybe they could offer support and let them know that living away from that place is not bad. Would they have anywhere to stay if they were to leave?
It sounds like their parents are choosing to mistreat them. You could show your girlfriend and her brother/sister this forum and let them know that they are not alone. They need to talk to more people and be reassured, I think. They'll survive just like the other two are surviving. Also, it's possible that their parents won't really ignore them forever, they'll be cut off from their family too, if they do.