Would like to know....

Where I'm at right now, as I've been carrying this weight for years now and it got to the point where I've lost touch with reality or something all I know is that I'm alone in a deep dark place. I didn't know where to post this and I'm actually looking for a diagnosis based on assumptions from your side as I cannot afford to seek professional help right now.

What has happened to me?
Well I had friends but lost them due to 2 reasons fights and migration. I have family that I see from time to time but now, I'm at home 24/7 except for college days. The last years I've been all alone and mostly awake at night and asleep in day, I've so angry all those past years and until today about all the horrible stuff that happened in the past (treason, lost gf, bad people etc.)
Present days, I'm still friendless, got friends in college and in some places but don't go out with them, only meet and talk a little in college.
Let me make it short cuz I must know what I can do or atleast what is my condition right now. I'm so sensitive and vulnerable that the smallest thing as a word/remark/comment keeps playing in my head the whole day and week month................................................................................................................................
I can't function in a confrontation (something I've always had) my chest gets so tight and I can't talk well and now end up trying to escape to not make myself look mad or sick and end up with it (the problem big or small consuming my life and thoughts.)
Think I can describe more but think I'll stop here.

Hi,

to me, you are just describing your personality here, and I don't see it as a 'mental' problem. You're just 'you', and you must learn how to best adapt to the world around you. So you are sensitive? - Great - it can be a good thing - but just learn to avoid things that you have already learned upset you. When you put your hand in the fire, you learn not to do it again. The same principle applies to the mind - i.e. learn to stay clear of things that hurt you mentally, as opposed to physically.

Regarding your friends, well, friends come and go in life. it's best not to try to hang onto them if they don't seem bothered about you. Ditch them and move with things. Be as free as you possibly can be, and independent. Once you get through this current stage of your life, then you will be able to choose what your next path is. However, getting through this current stage WILL be difficult, but you are capable of generating the confidence to do it.

Again, I want to repeat that I don't see anything fundamentally wrong with you, based on what you've written.

Kevin

hey Silent Wishes you seem to be going through a really hard time. And there are certain things in your post which says to me that maybe you do have a little bit more of a hard time coping with things.

You said that your seeking a diagnosis based on our assumptions.

May I suggest that you read through the forums and see if there is anywhere that you feel you fit? Rather than having anonymous people try to diagnose you?

Some places you could start would be in the mood disorders for depression and anxiety. Under Personality Disorders try Borderline.

Even if you dont have all the symptoms of a condition you may still find it useful to learn coping mechanisms that are being discussed.

Chucky wrote:Hi,

to me, you are just describing your personality here, and I don't see it as a 'mental' problem. You're just 'you', and you must learn how to best adapt to the world around you. So you are sensitive? - Great - it can be a good thing - but just learn to avoid things that you have already learned upset you. When you put your hand in the fire, you learn not to do it again. The same principle applies to the mind - i.e. learn to stay clear of things that hurt you mentally, as opposed to physically.

Regarding your friends, well, friends come and go in life. it's best not to try to hang onto them if they don't seem bothered about you. Ditch them and move with things. Be as free as you possibly can be, and independent. Once you get through this current stage of your life, then you will be able to choose what your next path is. However, getting through this current stage WILL be difficult, but you are capable of generating the confidence to do it.

Again, I want to repeat that I don't see anything fundamentally wrong with you, based on what you've written.

Kevin

Thank you very much, your answer was helpful indeed in summing up and focusing on a major source (probably) of my problems. Yes, I do see the majority of people avoid situations they are not good in, and I have always pushed myself into situations that are very difficult in fear of people sensing weakness and capitalizing in the future.

But if my personality indeed is the source of my problems and I should avoid what I do not like. Then what happens if it comes to work, life and other situations that are unavoidable?
What can I do to cope or hopefully change?

MissMadison wrote:hey Silent Wishes you seem to be going through a really hard time. And there are certain things in your post which says to me that maybe you do have a little bit more of a hard time coping with things.

You said that your seeking a diagnosis based on our assumptions.

May I suggest that you read through the forums and see if there is anywhere that you feel you fit? Rather than having anonymous people try to diagnose you?

Some places you could start would be in the mood disorders for depression and anxiety. Under Personality Disorders try Borderline.

Even if you dont have all the symptoms of a condition you may still find it useful to learn coping mechanisms that are being discussed.

Hi missmadison, Thanks for pointing out the forums who are possibly relevant to my case.

Hi.
In my experience, sadness is when everything matters and depression is when nothing matters. Where do you think you are in regards to this idea? Are you feeling any different since your last post? I hope you are doing ok.
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