Hope for the possibility of a bright future...

Well I will start off with my woes...

I am losing my job which pays modestly since they trained me for a long time. I will not be able to find an equivalent without more education, several years of education and debt included. I have wife and daughter to take care of and they are currently on my jobs health care plan. My mortgage is huge and the housing market in my area is discouraging, so I may have to file for bankruptcy if I cannot find a job or sell it quickly. Even selling it quickly will put me in the hole around 15k. Our families want to help, and give us a place to live while we recover, but we live in Alaska and cannot afford to move to where they live.

I consistently find myself battling back my former depressive self from rising from the ashes and consuming me yet again. I spent years fighting back my depression and negativity to have this happen. When I thought my life some coming together it gets swept from underneath me and fall into a larger pit than ever before. Right now I feel apathetic, but I am going to a series of short-highs and long, enduring lows. Any advice is welcomed and thanks for reading my fragmented thoughts.

Hey Tyler, this is certainly a hard situation to be in. You seem intelligent though and I'm sure you'll make the right moves for you and your family. It might be a case of taking a few steps back to go even more forward - know what I mean? I don't know about you but, in my life, whenever really bad & pessimistic situations arose, something new and positive always cropped up eventually. There is something positive in everything - I'm sure of it.

What other types of jobs are available in your area? Just wondering too if your company is shutting-down or just cutting costs? Will there be redundancy package?

Kevin

I do know what you mean, in regards to taking a few steps back. Thanks for the support and understanding, very appreciative of that indeed.

I will start looking for private sector jobs after my wife gets back and I finish a few home improvement tasks around the house. First objective is to sell my house. If I can do that before my savings disappear everything else will be easy.

My company was the USAF and I am being discharged for trying Salvia. A legal substance that is sold in local tobacco shops. Also, irregardless of my commander wanting me to stay in, it is out of his hands, so I am out. One mistake, horrible mistake and I am not allowed to continue serving my country although the substance I used is less of a danger to safety than alcohol and just as legal. I am being generally discharged so no education bill or many other veteren benefits I worked my ass off for and I cannot apply for many government positions. I find it semi-amusing that the more reasonable decision was not made by the AF due to lack of truthful information and lack of due process. Considering I was not "punished" just administratively separated is a distorted means to evading my constitutional right to due process. Oh well...

Anyways, I am looking for any jobs that will pay me enough to afford the mortgage while I sell my house and then move in with family and go to school. But, if I have to file for bankruptcy, my wife will not beable to go to law school and I will not beable to go to law school so I am hoping that my life will not come to that point. We'll see.

If it's legal I don't think the use of salvia would disqualify you from receiving federal Pell Grants and Stafford Loans. They might be a great help to you and your wife as you try to afford going to school. If you want more information you can use these links:

http://www.ed.gov/programs/fpg/index.html
http://studentaid.ed.gov/PORTALSWebApp/students/english/studentloans.jsp

I have experience dealing with these if you need someone to answer questions.

Good luck with finding a job and managing your finances. Being there for your family is important and goes beyond providing for them physically. You already know that. Just remember your success as a husband and father aren't based on your job, house, and health care provider. Peace.

Tyler, that sounds like it's so tough to accept - I think I'd be cracking up if I lost my job due to something like that. It seems unfair too because, as you've said, alcohol is more dangerous. The only reason alcohol is accepted because everyone has been using it for centuries and it'll never be banned due to large corporate backing. The world simply doesn't make sense, even at the best of times.

I'll give you one thing though: You appear to have a definite plan on how to get out of this. There will be tough times but you have a good brain that you can use to good effect here.

Kevin