Cant Focus on study due to Lost Hope.

hi all.
i joined this forum to get some answer to a severe problem of mine that i recently have diagnosed with me. i m 37, married with one 5 year old daughter. i have ever been a ferociously ambitious person believing in hard work. It been ten years that i m working in the organization where i m now. i ve been working very hard these years and had quiet better reports than my peers. but recently (with in a span of 6 months), there were 4 incidents that shattered my faith in hard work and killed all my hope that n e thing good is ever gonna come for me. in fact, what happened is that i was bypassed for benefits in favor of 4 other peers of mine from whom i stood better in organizational reports (i dont know whether this is the reason of my de-motivation or not, but i ve great grief). Recently my organization sent me on a course. I cant study. i cant focus on study. i cant reproduce things in exams and i even dont feel like sitting and studying.
I just want to know what has gone wrong with me and is there any remedy to my situation?

landon wrote:hi all.
i joined this forum to get some answer to a severe problem of mine that i recently have diagnosed with me. i m 37, married with one 5 year old daughter. i have ever been a ferociously ambitious person believing in hard work. It been ten years that i m working in the organization where i m now. i ve been working very hard these years and had quiet better reports than my peers. but recently (with in a span of 6 months), there were 4 incidents that shattered my faith in hard work and killed all my hope that n e thing good is ever gonna come for me. in fact, what happened is that i was bypassed for benefits in favor of 4 other peers of mine from whom i stood better in organizational reports (i dont know whether this is the reason of my de-motivation or not, but i ve great grief). Recently my organization sent me on a course. I cant study. i cant focus on study. i cant reproduce things in exams and i even dont feel like sitting and studying.
I just want to know what has gone wrong with me and is there any remedy to my situation?

Hello! I heard a great story a while back that I'd like to share here, to help you understand that it's okay to relax and not worry about being number 1 all the time.

I was listening mpr radio news and they were talking about work and school. One story was about a kid who grew up under a "Tiger Mother" who always told him he had to be the best at everything he did. He had to have the best grades, be the best in sports, and stand out among fellow students and coworkers. If he did not, he would be mentally abused and even physically in some cases.

So, as he went through school, up to his doctorate, he carried this mentality with him in everything he did. If he didn't have a 4.0 gpa and be the captain on his soccer team, his mother told him he was a failure in life. After years and years of suffering, when he graduated, he had a mental breakdown.

This was the moment in his life when him and his family realized that being #1 and working your butt off isn't necessary to succeed in life. The man found out that while yes, hard work is great to have because it will get you far in life, you also have to enjoy your life and its process.

For you stressing about not doing as great of a job, you shouldn't worry about it because I'm sure you're just having a small bump and you'll get over it in no time. I personally feel we stress too much about the small stuff and that's probably what you're doing. Just take a few minutes to yourself a day and remember you've done a bunch of great things with your life!

Breathe in, breathe out!

No pal. i didnt get over it. precisely, i m planning suicide at the age of 40 now. i m not getting better. have tried every thing.