why hpds can't keep time?

hpds always get late
for job, school, etc

why?

Because putting my makeup on, and looking my best is more important than being timely.
If I'm not at my best, I'm gonna be pi$$y all day.....

I'm seldom late for anything, ever.
Time is of the essence

Is that a fact?

I am almost always on time. But keeping track of hours, or a schedule, that's not easy for me. I always joked about having temporal lobe damage.

Not sure if I am HPD

MrKap wrote:Is that a fact?

I am almost always on time. But keeping track of hours, or a schedule, that's not easy for me. I always joked about having temporal lobe damage.

Not sure if I am HPD

If you look anything like your profile picture, then it's doubtful. Very doubtful.

exquisitecorpse wrote:

MrKap wrote:Is that a fact?

I am almost always on time. But keeping track of hours, or a schedule, that's not easy for me. I always joked about having temporal lobe damage.

Not sure if I am HPD

If you look anything like your profile picture, then it's doubtful. Very doubtful.

Yeah I know... I just looked up the definition... I am defiantly not a theatre student... or one of those glee types...

Why HPD's can't keep time...many evidently prefer a lyrical flowing world free of western geometries like time.

Speculation....

Time is a structure, a boundary line between what's approved and disapproved; if you show up for a job interview late you probably won't get it, in part because it might be a predictor that you will be late for work or school a lot in the future. So, stung, by failure in this area, many HPD's begin to subconsciously avoid time and deadlines, etc.

Also, maybe fear - time is running out...perhaps another day of life with no rudder...out of denial they would rather avoid this whole topic of time?

Many Cluster B people don't seem to like structure, most likely because self-discipline is a problem for them. True?

Somewhat off topic but fairly closely related, one thing I have noticed though, is that a lot of AsPD's who have been to prison have a secret fondness for routine and order and structure...when those prison guards forced them to adapt to structure every day, it was like crude therapy, as if they experienced a little recovery. In fact, if you are too easy and cordial to AsPD out in the world I have noticed that some get nervous and agitated. Puzzling at first for me, who tried to reach them with conventional kindness. So now for me it's ok, if that's what you like...I'll give you some good structure (but not disrespectfully).

A male AsPD, who longed for structure, camaraderie and love from a dysfunctional father, a female HPD, who longed for attention, camaraderie and love from a dysfunctional mother...has a nice symmetrical ring to it.

yyy -

I haven't read that, though not so long ago you wrote in another thread that people with HPD may avoid responsibility because in a sense, they don't want to grow up.

I've also read that people with HPD may not enjoy jobs that require attention to details, timeliness, drudgery, etc. Possibly the later is related to that some jobs, as well as studying a new topic, require most of us to stop socializing and focus on the matter. Concentration, especially when there is a deadline to be met, is often mentally straining, stressful, not necessarily a pleasant feeling for any of us. Plus of course the lack of social interaction means a period of time during which one is not going to get much if any attention from others. Are you late to things that you enjoy? Say a date with a new boyfriend?

Other people seem to just generally be late because they are always wrapped up in self-created drama, which they seemingly enjoy on some level.

Other people just seem to have a poor sense of time, and frequently under-estimate how long it will take to complete things that need/should be done. Some just push the limits, giving themselves no time for anything unexpected to go wrong.

It appears some people get some strange ego boost out of being late, like 'I am so important, others can wait for me!'

Lots of reasons some people are always 'late'

Maybe it's a sense of entitlement, a bit narc-like in its egocentricity, that rules don't really apply to you, and maybe you are worth the time waiting for you to appear? Just a speculation from what I know of HPDs.

tigertim wrote:Maybe it's a sense of entitlement, a bit narc-like in its egocentricity, that rules don't really apply to you, and maybe you are worth the time waiting for you to appear? Just a speculation from what I know of HPDs.

wrong.
Just a speculation from that I am HPD.