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co dependent
by rcd1390 » Sat Dec 24, 2005 4:44 am
I never considered myself that way...maybe I am..... hmmmm....I've never considered myself as codependent, I've always been in charge...I just love the good things about her. This sucks
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by novaseeker » Sat Dec 24, 2005 3:59 pm
The idea of "being in charge" is really a part of codependency. When you're codependent, you're the responsible one, the mature one, the together one, the in-charge one ... but what happens is that your own needs are not met. That's what the essence of a co-dependent situation is.
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by KontrollerX » Sat Dec 24, 2005 4:00 pm
So What or Blue Phoenix whoever you really are I don't think he's just rationalizing I honestly just don't think he knows what co-dependancy is.
So here you go rcd...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependence
So here you go rcd...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependence
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co dependent
by rcd1390 » Sun Dec 25, 2005 3:31 pm
hmm thanks, that certainly seems true of me...I'm always trying to help people that are having problems and get them to see the light..i didn't realize it was a disorder. I'll have to read more about it. Thanks to all and a merry chrismas....maybe by next year this time I'll have my act together and be sharing it with a wonderful woman!
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Re: co dependent
by novaseeker » Sun Dec 25, 2005 8:28 pm
rcd1390 wrote:hmm thanks, that certainly seems true of me...I'm always trying to help people that are having problems and get them to see the light..i didn't realize it was a disorder. I'll have to read more about it. Thanks to all and a merry chrismas....maybe by next year this time I'll have my act together and be sharing it with a wonderful woman!
You have a good Christmas as well ... and remember, helping people isn't a disorder, it's really more about a pattern of relating that ensures your own needs are not met.
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Well....
by rcd1390 » Sun Dec 25, 2005 8:41 pm
i guess that is way over my head...what you are saying is i am purposefully trying to make sure my needs aren't met? Must be more about me that I don't understand!
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by novaseeker » Sun Dec 25, 2005 9:34 pm
No. What I'm saying is you may not be codependent. You're codependent if you consistently seek out relationships (or persist in one relationship) where your needs are not met and where you are a "caretaker" of sorts, rather than a mutual relationship where both people meet each other's needs. It's a pattern of relating that some people develop, but you may not have it.
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by KontrollerX » Sun Dec 25, 2005 9:37 pm
Rcd I think what she is trying to get across is co-dependants worry so much about keeping the peace with their significant other that they don't bring up their own needs to this person because they fear it will end the relationship or cause their significant other to snap at them.
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