I've decided to re-engage with my hpd...

with my hpd and see what happens...eyes wide open...it's funny, right now she says she loves me and doesnt want to see me until after the holidays, because of the 'hurt" we've caused each other... I said, well you've probably got dates lined up for all the xmas events, so who cares/ that's fine---now she's calling and emailing 5 or more times a day....I said fine, cool, no hurry by me...expect nothing and u won't be dissappointed is my new motto...

I'll keep you all posted....

LOL, the old saying about playing with fire comes to mind but in anycase this should be entertaining to hear about.

oh I'm sure I'll be in store for some surprises! It already astonishes me that she's saying she loves me but doesn't want to see me til after the first of the year!

Hey,
Gotta say, i dont understand this at all - why would she suddenly want you back, declare her undying love and then say wont see you till the new year!!
Why the hell even bother with the effort to re-engage this person? If she cant be bothered to get over the hurt, whatever either have you have done, and even put the effort in to see you over christmas, then she cant be that interested. Does she live a zillion miles away or something??
Why even bother to play games with this person, it seems you know how shallow she is.
Dont go there, you are lowering yourself to her level.
You are better than the hpd shell that she eminates!
Hope you have a good christmas!

"Hey,
Gotta say, i dont understand this at all - why would she suddenly want you back, declare her undying love and then say wont see you till the new year!!
Why the hell even bother with the effort to re-engage this person? If she cant be bothered to get over the hurt, whatever either have you have done, and even put the effort in to see you over christmas, then she cant be that interested. Does she live a zillion miles away or something??"

LOL, she's not hurting starz.

She's an HPD meaning that she is seeing another guy or guys right now and has to wrap up that dirty business before she can start in on thinking she's manipulating our friend the original poster once again who is on to her game.

"Why even bother to play games with this person, it seems you know how shallow she is.
Dont go there, you are lowering yourself to her level.
You are better than the hpd shell that she eminates!
Hope you have a good christmas!"

I think he is persuing either because 1. The sex was really good or 2. Its just downright hilarious to mess with an HPD's mind.

I think you are making a mistake. These people don't change without both heavy duty pyschotherapy and the will and desire to change.

You're gonna get burned. Immediately she is setting her own selfish agenda (do what she wants, when she wants) by putting a constraint on when you can see her (after New Years!)

Did she ask you when it would be ok to see each other? Take your feelings into consideration?

Of course not. Self-centered, self-serving, and self-absorbed is the HPD way.

You are an object to her and will always be so.

Why would you want to submit yourself to this?

There are millions of wonderful, empathetic, NORMAL, woman out there. Find one.

I agree with Chron here - Controller, you know how clever HPD can be. RCD could be letting himself in for a rough ride......
RCD - I just feel that if you didnt feel anything for this person then you wouldnt have the need for them in your life in any way shape or form. They need help. You my friend, need to truly get on with your life and get over them.
Its normal to want to make someone who has hurt you badly feel as hurt as you do, but its not worth the cost and effort to you. If this person is a HPD, then they are not the one thats going to get hurt. The best thing to do is truly move on with your life. Once your no longer thinking of this person or their HPD, behaviours etc because it doesnt affect your life at all, then youre a true HPD survivor and winner.
It may feel like the HPD has won their little battle of games they play, but ultimately, you will be the winner when you move on to have a productive happy life with someone who truly loves, and they are left behind amidst their games, selfishness and probably a life full of bad relationships and lies.
One day you wont need this forum at all. It will all be in the distant past.
Hurt people hurt people, and can mess up your head. Dont let what ever it was that happened to this person to make them angry with the world and behave the way they do, cause the same bitterness in you that could have a knock on effect on your life and your future relationships.
Controller, you seem like a good person, who has been very hurt.
Messing with anyones head isnt a nice thing - its what people with PD's do. Think about it, its normally abuse that they suffered at some point in their lives that causes these behavioural problems. Dont let the damage that your HPD has done to you wreck your life or anyone else whom you may have a chance at a proper relationship with in the future. Its a downward spiral. Heal, and try to forgive.

How old are you RCD, you sound very young.

rcd1390 Re-engage my HPD.
1. She aint you’re anything. You make her sound like a car you are sticking in gear. How robotic of you and it's nice to no you have your own personal Histronic, and don't forget... a Histronic isn't just for Xmas it's for life.
2. If she has a mental illness then you are ######6 with her head. I find it questionable about your state of mind (and please remember this is only my unprofessional opinion).
Normal people (which you are displaying yourself as on here) don't ###$ with other peoples minds.
If I believed my ex had other dates lined up over the Xmas period, then I wouldn't entertain her slutty arse. That opens questions and a debate about you RCD.
WHY DO YOU NEED HER?
WHY CAN'T YOU LET THIS ALL GO AND MOVE ON?
WHY CAN'T YOU FIND A NICE NORMAL GIRL/MAN?
WHY DON'T YOU WANT TO?
HAVEN'T YOU GOT SOME HEALING FROM THIS FORUM?
IF YES.. WHAY ARE YOU GOING TO GO THROUGH IT ALL AGAIN?
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KontrollorX
Hello me old cock.

2. Its just downright hilarious to mess with an HPD's mind.

KYJellman Do you believe what you have written is normal and acceptable behavior: Y/N?

You sick individual. My opinion of course and I am not professional or anything like you. I have never in my life knowingly ###$ with someone’s head and thought it was hilarious. I have ###$ with there heads and cried for what I had done, I didn’t get off on it KXman. Oh my god!!!!!!!!!
Hey kid this is Karma aint it.
You really do need that very expensive psych you visit. I think you need to explain that comment you put on the internet for all to see. You need a little more help and you certainly need a great deal of understanding that’s quite certain. Ask Santa for these things


Whether RCD is with a HPD or not he used this forum to find some self healing but is now RE-ENGAGING MY HPD this individual may have an anti social disorder, what’s your excuse then?

RCD Do you believe what you have written is normal: Y/N?

Don't come back here bleating about her after she breaks your little heart again you entered into this little game with your eyes wide open.

I agree with chron6988 and starz you are making a mistake and don't seem to give a $#%^ what happens to this person or your own personal well being at the outcome. But you will care.
BUT HEY WON IT BE GREAT CRACK HE HE HE HE LMAO Jesus Christ....

If KontrollorX is right and I am Histronic, then I am glad. At least the $#%^ I have done has never been that calculated and malicious as this.

My advice and you can tell me to piss off I don’t actually care: -
The way to stop all this crap is to take yourself out of it. A new year is about to start. Make it a new and good year for you.
Make it your year. Get over your pain and find a nice person who will share and care about you as you would them.
Good luck with this

Have a great xmas.......................
bye your very own HPD jamostrat.

"KontrollerX
Hello"

Hello jammerman.

"KX Do you believe what you have written is normal and acceptable behavior?"

Oh the misunderstandings are strong in this one!

Jammerman if you read what I said in context the reasons I gave were what I thought the original poster felt about the situation and judging by his PM's to me it is just that. I wouldn't personally mess with an HPD's mind for kicks. Being my life long best friend I thought you would know that already?

"If KontrollorX is right and I am Histronic, then I am glad. At least the $#%^ I have done has never been that calculated and malicious as this."

Wrong.

If you're histrionic you know every action you take and do so willingly you just don't care if those actions effect other people negatively because they are objects to you and not human beings.

If you're histrionic that is jammerman.

If you're histrionic you know every action you take and do so willingly you just don't care if those actions effect other people negatively because they are objects to you and not human beings.
cause you have just proved me not Histronic.

As you are the guru of HPD's thanks for that.
No i didn't know every action i took and the consequences, i was to angry to out of it and in to much a deep mental state.
I feel cured and enlightened and lifted. he he!
I always knew i wasn't and you have just reinforced that thanks me old mate. I am cured, i have been absolved, you are a lord a healer it's the second coming. It's KontrollerX.

Oh the misunderstandings are strong in this one!

Yeh right!

Jammerman if you read what I said in context the reasons I gave were what I thought the original poster felt about the situation and judging by his PM's to me it is just that. I wouldn't personally mess with an HPD's mind for kicks. Being my life long best friend I thought you would know that already?

I have read it again. Still is pretty clear to me and everyone else who has read it.
If i and others who have read it have got it wrong, then add a new post explaining and retract it.
Life long best friend; always matey. You need a friend.

No misunderstandings there kid. Fun to ###$ with an HPD's head.
Nah!!!!!!! no misunderstanding there.