Your Opinion/Diagnosis??

My life partner of 4 yrs has left me 3 times vowing never to return. She has SA; severe depression; DID; and bi-polar.
She constantly has "drama" and going to doctors for all sorts of pain. She tells everyone that she's never going to leave me again, and then I come home to find all of her things gone and a note she leaves saying she's sorry but no reason for leaving other than she wants to be alone. Then I find out she has found someone else to "take care of her" and give her attention.

What do you think about her behaviour? She is 44 yrs old!!

Being on this forum I've got to naturally assume you want to know if she has HPD.

Well I'm gonna need more details.

The getting "attention" that you mentioned is one and leaving you three times to be with others is two (as HPD's wish to be desired by all but possessed by none) but still I need more...

Is her speech overly dramatic?
Is she flirtatious all the time?
Does she seem to ooze sexuality ie being incredibly seductive in appearance/behaviour or both?
Have you suspected or confirmed that she's cheated on you repeatedly while supposedly in love with you when things were seemingly going good between the two of you?
Is she frighteningly beautiful?
Do you ever get the sense that she's lying to you even about miniscule things?
Does she abuse alcohol or drugs?
Does she have a lot of guy "friends" always seeming to be hanging around?
Does she have any female friends and if so are they attractive or ugly?
Has she ever accused you of stifling her social life when you wanted to spend a quiet evening alone with her somewhere but she wanted to bring friends?
Does she seem overly concerned with how she looks at all times and has a tendency to almost always be wearing eyeshadow?
Does she seem like your soul mate as in when the relationship first began did it seem too good to be true?

Thank you for your input and learning more about HPD, I don't believe that my partner has many of the classic symptoms. She has some but not the seductive personality traits. She wants to be a "victim" and wants people to feel sorry for her and take care of her. She keeps "running" but doesn't say that it's because someone is after her. Seems like she's just searching for happiness like a magic pill but not willing to put the work into her therapy to get better.

Since I met her 4.5 yrs ago, I've been doing research and trying to understand her situation as to be a better partner for her. I learn from everyone on these forumns and appreciate all your input on my questions. I guess that I just need to let her go and pray that she will finally make a commitment to her treatment and perhaps one day she will find her way back to me and both of us will be healthier. She won't talk directly to me on the phone but a friend of ours said that she does loves me and that's why she can't come back to me (and keep leaving). She said that she can't take the pressure of being with me and that she's physically sick (fibro).
I guess I have to just "let go and let God.............."